The link between your inner state of being and your external reality

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You are the creator of your reality.

This may sound like a grandiose statement, but it’s true. Your thoughts, beliefs, and emotions profoundly shape the world around you.

Have you ever noticed how one negative thought can ripple outward and influence everything in your life? Or that a positive outlook can bring more opportunities your way?

This is because your inner state of being is intimately connected to the external reality you experience. Your internal state doesn’t just affect the way others perceive you; it affects the way reality is presented to you.

Defining your inner state of being and external reality

You are an epistemological subject, which means you’re capable of understanding and constructing your reality.

Your external identity is how others see you; it’s the person they talk to, the face they recognize, and the behavior they observe.

Your external reality is composed of a physical environment, your body, and your place in it. All of these aspects are influenced by your inner state of being—how you perceive and think about the world.

Your inner world—what lies within you—is a projection of that state. It isn’t something we can change by physically rearranging things; instead, it comes from within us, often in the form of emotions or feeling states.

Your internal state affects how you interact with the outside world—the way you communicate with people, respond to changes in environment or life circumstances and ultimately shape your external reality according to that perception.

If we focus on our well-being—our thoughts and emotions—we can create an internal state that fosters a positive connection with our external reality. So next time you think about how “life happens” to you, remember that it may be happening because of you.

The relationship between your internal and external worlds
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So what do they have to do with each other?

Well, think of it this way: life is a mirror that reflects your inner world—where you are on the inside directly influences your external conditions.

That means if you’re feeling low on motivation and enthusiasm for life, it will be hard to achieve something great externally; and if you’re feeling happy and content internally, chances are you will discover a lot of joy in life!

By taking care of your inner state first—bringing yourself into balance through self-care like regular exercise or meditation—you will start to see real changes in your outer world too.

Understanding the power of your thoughts and beliefs

Do you want to create a more positive and meaningful external reality?

The first step is understanding the power of your thoughts and beliefs. Think of your thoughts as seeds, they are the foundation of everything you do and shape the direction of your life.

Positive thoughts create hope, joy, and optimism, while negative thoughts lead to fear, doubt, and sadness. You must take control of your thinking so you can create a life that brings greater fulfillment and satisfaction.

Here are ways to start:

  • Become aware of your current thoughts.

Observe what ideas come up when you’re faced with a challenge. Take time to be mindful of what is going on in your head and notice if it is helping or hindering progress toward your goals.

  • Challenge unproductive beliefs.

Identify any negative or overly pessimistic thoughts that don’t serve you, such as “I can’t do this” or “I’ll never be successful”. Replace these with more empowering messages such as “I can achieve this” or “I am capable of great things”.

  •  Be intentional with self-talk.

Practice encouragingly talking to yourself so that it helps build confidence and faith in yourself instead of creating doubts and anxieties.

Your ‘inner state of being’ has great influence over what happens on the outside, so take some time to align it with your desired outcomes.

Strengthening body-mind connection
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You can start to take steps towards improving your body-mind connection by practicing mindfulness and being conscious of the connection between your inner world and your external world.

Meditation is a great way to achieve this because it helps to keep you grounded while also helping to bring out positive feelings. With consistent practice, you can start to become aware of how your inner state of being is linked to external reality. This awareness can be incredibly powerful and can transform your life in many ways.

By strengthening your body-mind connection, you will begin to experience more contentment and improved well-being. Practicing meditation and mindfulness can help you develop a better understanding of yourself, which leads to more confidence in who you are and what you do—and how that is reflected in the reality around you.

Ultimately, it’s good to understand that our inner state of being, our thoughts, and our emotions all have a powerful effect on our external reality. The way we think, feel, and treat ourselves influences the way we show up in our relationships and our career. Our inner world is the foundation of our outer world, and we must take the time to nurture and care for our inner selves. When we do, we create a strong foundation for creating our dream life and living with true joy, peace, and purpose.


How Gratitude Can Improve Your Financial Life

Showing appreciation to others and to ourselves is characterized by gratitude. Gratitude makes us more aware of the sources of hope, joy, and wonder in our lives. Being grateful can improve your health, strengthen relationships, and help manage your finances.

Here are just some of the financial benefits of practicing gratitude:


Practicing gratitude can affect your patience. Researchers found that feelings of gratitude reduced financial impatience, according to a study published in Psychological Science journal. Those who showed gratitude had increased willingness to wait longer to receive their money. While those who wrote about neutrality tended to opt for immediate payouts.


Psychologists Robert Emmons and Michael McCullough showed that people who counted their blessings had a more positive outlook in life, exercised more, and were more likely to help others. These findings were supported by Psychologist Nathaniel Lambert who found that feelings of gratitude were associated with lower materialism.

Feeling thankful for what you have can enhance your satisfaction in life and reduce your desire to buy more things. Think about that!


As said above, generosity can increase the likelihood of helping others. The goal of financial planning is to allocate money towards things that you value most, which can be the welfare of others. Gratitude was shown to motivate people to pay it forward or to give back in many ways including financially.

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An article published by the American Psychological Association reported that gratitude facilitates generosity. People who were feeling gratitude were able to share more money with others, despite the recipient being a stranger.


When it comes to gratitude, the first step is to acknowledge the gifts and benefits we have received. Secondly, you must recognize that you have been blessed by others, luck, or divine intervention.

Gratitude requires us to see how we have been supported and affirmed by other people. In return, it can make us feel satisfied and secure.


A 2015 study by researchers at the University of Georgia found that gratitude can help couples to manage financial conflicts. Expressing appreciation and feeling appreciated are hallmarks of strong partnership, according to couples’ therapist Ed Coambs.

Ed said:

“In a flourishing, healthy relationship, gratitude flows naturally and pretty easily. In a functioning relationship, it’s more intermittent, a little less consistent. In a dysfunctional relationship, it’s absent.”

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Many financial conflicts stem from partners not feeling appreciated for their efforts to save money and to look after the couples’ future. This is where gratitude can come in.

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7 Tips for Achieving Mind-Body Balance

Health is not merely the absence of diseases; it is a state of optimal well-being and wholeness. This includes the food you eat, the relationships you build, the jobs you fulfill, and your life experiences.

Aiming for balance in your mind, body, and soul is a good place to start. Below are seven ways to help you begin the process.


Given our current situation, many Singaporeans are working from home. Try to stand or walk around while you work. Take a few minutes to refresh your mind and body. Sitting for extended periods of time was linked to diabetes and heart diseases.


Learning does not stop once you get out of school. Open your mind to new possibilities by taking online classes, reading books, watching documentaries, and attending workshops. Cultivate a heart that yearns for lifelong learning.


Meditation improves concentration, memory, mood, sleep, and creativity. All it takes is a few minutes per day to start reaping its benefits. You may even ask your friends to partake in a 30-Day Meditation Challenge with you.


Apart from meditation, regular exercise offers benefits for both your mind and body. A complete fitness plan includes exercises to develop cardiovascular conditioning, strength training, and flexibility. Get at least 15 to 30 minutes of moderate to fast-paced exercises each day.


Our society heavily depends on technology such as laptops and smartphones. Our busy lifestyles glued to our devices can cause detrimental effects on our overall health. Which is why people are tapping into the concept of mindfulness. Try unplugging for the weekend. Start by giving yourself an hour of mindfulness (i.e., no devices allowed).


Restful sleep is vital to having energy and optimal well-being. Take a restful sleep of about 7 hours per night. When you are well-rested, you can approach stressful situations in a calmer manner.


Research showed that a good social network has numerous physical and mental health benefits. Social support can keep you from feeling isolated, inadequate, or lonely. Your friends and family can give you advice on how to manage your problems.

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Self-doubt: How Impostor Syndrome Can Hold You Back At Work

You are suited up and ready to impress!

On your way to a job interview for a company that you care about, you brought a C.V. that highlights how perfectly you fit in the position you applied for. You are more than qualified for the position, and the team would be lucky to have you. The hiring manager said so himself!

However, you start questioning whether you are capable of the job as you meet the company’s supervisor. Self-doubt can cripple you and hinder your success.


Impostor Syndrome is the overwhelming feeling that you do not deserve success. You become convinced that you are not talented, attractive, intelligent, or capable as you may seem. You suspect that your achievements are due to luck, good timing, and other external factors.

Particularly in male-dominated environments, impostor syndrome has been thought to affect women more than men. However, recent study showed that it affects both genders equally.

A person with impostor syndrome (impostor) has a sense of being a fraud, a difficulty internalizing his or her success, and a fear of being discovered. Usually, the stressor triggering impostor syndrome involves getting a new opportunity such as a new job or an advanced degree.

“The person who achieved this level of success begins to have negative thoughts that the success was not really earned. These negative thoughts, which are often referred to as ‘cognitive distortions,’ are based on fear and anxiety and not based in objective facts.” – Ms. Cara Maksimow, LCSW


An impostor may procrastinate or put off assignments due to the fear of being unable to complete the necessary ambitious standards. On the other hand, the imposter may over-prepare by spending too much time on the task. If his or her behavior creates a successful outcome, it will be written off as luck or fluke in the system.

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Success can create a cycle of self-doubt for imposters. Even when they achieve important milestones, they are unable to recognize their own achievements. Instead of celebrating these, the impostors are worried that others will discover the “truth” about their abilities. This is an irrational thought.


There are many ways to manage the impostor syndrome. Here are just some of them:

a. Create a list of your strengths and prior accomplishments at work. Refer to this list when you are questioning yourself.

b. Talk to mentors who are more experienced in the field, when you feel like you do not belong in the situation.

c. Set realistic goals. Often, a fear of failure and a need to be the best can lead to overachievement.

d. Acknowledge what you are feeling. Do your best to keep a journal. Whenever you experience feelings of self-doubt or inadequacy, write your thoughts down. Be specific about why you are feeling this way.

e. Handling with Impostor Syndrome takes long-term effort. You need to employ strategies to deal with it at particularly stressful situations. When the negative self-talk takes over your mind, try to confront it by distancing yourself from the “emotional power” of the voice.

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Four Ways To Cultivate The Winning Mindset

Known for its prestige and diversity, the 2020 Summer Olympics is an ongoing international multi-sport event. It is currently being held from 23 July to 8 August in Tokyo, Japan. The Olympic athletes that represent their countries are no strangers to pressure. These athletes spend almost their entire lives to train for their events. Can you imagine their overwhelming emotions moments before the competition with the world watching their every move?

Olympic athletes know that challenges and setbacks are natural parts of life. However, the way we handle stress sets us apart. Physical training and mental toughness are crucial to success. Fortunately for us, mental toughness can be developed over time.

On that note, here are some strategies that you can employ to cultivate the “winning mindset”.


Olympian and Sports Psychologist Nicole Forrester studied how some Olympic athletes achieve their aspirations while others fall short. She observed that differences appear through mental skills training. She describes mental skills as the key to help athletes elevate confidence, manage stress, and block distractions. In fact, mindset was listed as the reason why Canada’s swimmer Penny Oleksiak secured the Olympic gold medal in the 2016 Rio Olympics.

“If you dream and you allow yourself to dream, you can do anything.” – Clara Hughes, one of Canada’s most decorated Olympians


Do not rely on talent alone. Steve Canal, author of The Mind of a Winner, once said: “We all are good at something, but a winning mindset understands that the difference between making it a hobby, or a business is the discipline and work you put behind it.” Growing your talents involve discipline and hard work. You need to pour your attention and efforts to improving and applying the talents that you have.

Consistent top performers do not rely on mere talents. They continuously work on their craft and investigate their weaknesses. Then, they find ways to target and improve these weaknesses.


To become successful, you must be aware of the factors that involve your path. Moreover, you must be willing to pour all your resources to achieve it. You need to create a strong momentum to keep developing a winning mindset.

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This momentum can start by having a great purpose. For instance, a businessman can stay motivated by the idea that achieving a specific goal would help the business flourish.

“This moment is not about me, it’s really for my country, it’s about all my coaches, my friends, my family that believed that when I was a six-year-old kid that I could do it.” – Joseph Schooling, Singaporean swimmer & Olympic athlete


No matter how strongly you envision something, you cannot think your way to success. You must act! Many business leaders spend their time analyzing their next move that they become risk-adverse and stagnant. As a result, these people can miss out opportunities to learn from their mistakes. Innovation and upgrades are necessary to keep up with the contemporary world.

Pushing yourself beyond your perceived limitations will help you become a better (tougher) version of yourself. After all, most winners take risks and step out of their comfort zones.

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Remember that winning mindsets are not innate. They are developed!

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