Relationships and investing are both complicated and mixing the two can either be a home run or a recipe for disaster. As Michelle Singletary, author of Your Money and Your Man: How You and Prince Charming Can Spend Well and Live Rich, once said:
“Couples want to know should they have his, hers, or ours, or all of the above. They’re not sure how to manage it. And that’s where a lot of the arguments come in, especially if there is uneven income earning between the two.”
Sometimes an individual may feel like a child receiving an allowance from his or her spouse, but it turns out that the person simply cannot handle money well. The situation can be resolved if both parties begin to be accountable for their money. Aside from this, here are some tips to boost your financial intimacy:
1. INTERVIEW EACH OTHER
Upon entering a serious relationship, you must discuss about your perspectives on money, spending habits, and sharing costs. This will make talks about financial issues easier as time goes by – especially if you are planning to spend the rest of your lives together.
For couples who are about to get married, you must touch on the long-term subjects such as how to enhance your credit scores, how to address retirement, how lavish your wedding ceremony will be, and how do you plan to manage your money.
2. BE COMPLETELY HONEST
Regardless of whether you have joint or separate bank accounts, you must always be honest to your partner about your current financial situation and your ideal financial situation. Tell him or her about your purchases, debts, income, assets and other things that are in your account/s right now. As for your ideal financial situation, relay your future plans such as having annual overseas trips.
Financial intimacy entails full disclosure about your finances including knowing what documents are signed and where the records are kept.
3. SEEK OUTSIDE HELP
When it comes to marriage, you become half of a legal and financial partnership once you say “I do!” This is why Premarital Counseling incorporating a strong financial component is a great help. If you are deciding to purchase a condo or an HDB through your CPF accounts, the financial professional will guide you to good credit score and substantial amount of savings. An accountant during the first year of marriage is also helpful as your taxes can get complicated during the transition from single to married.