As Buddha once said: “Do not overrate what you have received, nor envy others. He who envies others does not obtain peace of mind.”
Even though we are not aware of it, we as human beings have the tendency to compare ourselves to others in order to know what state in life we really are. The sad truth is, most people feel happier when they perceive that they are wealthier than others than the fact of being able to earn for a living. Simply, several studies showed that one’s earnings in comparison with others play an important role in one’s happiness.
But people’s economic positions are not as perfect as your mind makes it out to be! Here are the other reasons why you must avoid comparing yourself to others in terms of money…
1. YOU OFTEN COMPARE INACCURATELY
Often, when you compare yourself to others, you may not get the 360 view of the person’s life. You only get the glimpse of what they want to show in public especially in social media. In Facebook, most publicize their lavish possessions and greatest achievements while masking their struggles such as domestic disputes or living from paycheck to paycheck. On the other hand, you may be envious of how your friend is always getting the big commissions but you are not aware that he has to lose those loads of money right away just to pay off his student loan. So, it is important to not make any assumptions and move the spotlight towards your life.
2. YOU ARE ENTERING A CYCLE OF NO END
This endless cycle of comparison will only take you to a downward spiral as your goals get higher and higher where there are many categories for you to choose from. You may compare your HDB flat to your colleague’s high-rise condominium, or her designer shoes compared to your shoes that were on sale. There will always be others who may appear that they have better material possessions that you. This is why measuring your worth by comparing your earnings and material possessions to others are an unhealthy habit that may lead to depression.
3. YOU MUST ACCEPT THAT WE ARE ALL SPECIAL
Whenever you desire to purchase something, whether it be a new purse or a new car, pause and ask yourself if you really want to buy it because it is what you want or because you want to fit in with everyone else. By knowing how detrimental this habit can be, learning to accept our differences is essential. While they are willing to spend more time in the office to earn better wages, you are spending more quality time at home with your family.
We may be created uniquely but, we are all special.