How To Avoid Online Dating Scams And Losing Money

People you meet online are not always who they say they are.

In 2007, a Singaporean woman was jailed for an online dating scam amounting to about $45,000. A married woman named Maliha Ramu used a false profile to begin an exploitative relationship with Bharani Indran who lives in United States. After Ramu promised to marry Indran, he began to send her money for her “mother’s funeral expenses” and “friend’s wedding expenses”.

Protect yourself from getting conned like so by using these tips to recognize when you are being scammed:

1. BACKGROUND SEARCH

Upon meeting someone you like online, do a profile search through Google and an image search through TinEye. TinEye allows you to upload a photo and retrace where it came from. I suggest you save the person’s profile picture or ask for some photos yourself. As for the profile, he or she will be virtually searchable on Google unless this person lived under a rock for the longest time.

If the person sent you a photo that looks like something from a magazine, be a little more suspicious. And if the person’s own online profile does not match the pictures you researched then keep your warning signals up.

2. PERSONAL EMAIL

Some online dating scammers are not interested with starting an long-term deceitful relationship with you, they merely want to send you with marketing mails and other spams. These scammers ask for your personal email address and never get back to you after that.

Aside from providing your personal email to people whom you are certain of, avoid these people by creating a separate email for your online dating activities. This way, you can easily delete or cancel your supplementary email if you start getting loads of spam mails.

3. INSTANT SOULMATES

If a person says that he or she loves you and wants to marry you after 20 minutes of chatting then, it is clearly a scam or you may just be messaging with an infatuated teen! You should know from your experiences or that of others that love is more than just a feeling. It is something that develops through time after several dates and conversation exchanges. It is built on mutual respect and trust.

If a person declared his affection for you without even seeing you in person or through video-chat, then it is probably a lie. Their underlying agenda will show soon after.

4. PIGGY BANK

A person is scamming you if he or she repeatedly asks you for money through an online dating site. These con artists can come up with various reasons such as family funeral, medical emergency, and mugging to make you send cash. It does not stop there! He or she may also ask you to send some gifts to help alleviate a financial hardship or to help prove your love.

So be wary of sending money to strangers especially using wire transfer or other electronic currencies because money transferred via these channels are hard to recover.

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Sources: 1, 2, & 3

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Effective Ways To Teach Teens About Investing

Money gives people, of all ages, the decision-making opportunities they need. Educating your teens to make wise money decisions earlier on will affect their finances in the long run. One of the most important things you must do is to expose your daughter or son to the basics of investing. In hindsight, I wished my parents did so.

1. ENLIGHTEN THEM ABOUT YOUR FINANCES

Embedded in our Asian culture, most Singaporean parents keep their financial issues away from their children. However, the teenage years is the perfect time for you to enlighten them about the “real world” and its problems. Keeping your teens in the dark will make them think that managing money is easy and life is perfect.

Help your teenage child to transition from being a clueless kid to an informed young adult by teaching how important it is to set up future goals and a working budget. Take the effort to share your financial experiences including the ones that are related to investing. Be ready to answer countless amount of questions too!

2. PUT VALUE TO THE CURRENCY

Explaining the importance of money is easier said than done. With the idealistic minds of most teens, you must level it down to reality by giving relatable examples. Put worth or value to the currency by telling them that the money they saved and invested can be used to buy concert tickets of their favorite bands. It can also be used to buy the latest gadget that they have been eyeing on.

Make them realize that when money is invested in the right place and in the right way, they can purchase not just one but probably a couple of the things that they need and want.

3. START WITH THE BASICS

Similar to learning how to ride a bicycle, begin by attaching the training wheels. In this case the training wheels are your investing fundamentals. Explain your own investment philosophy and the way you invest. Then talk about the basics of how the stock market operates as well as the different investment options available (e.g., mutual funds and REITs). Differentiate each option by describing its rewards and risks.

Start with these simple concepts first before jumping on the other concepts such as P/E ratios and diversification. This way, you can keep your child’s interest as everything seems understandable.

4. USE TECHNOLOGY TO YOUR ADVANTAGE

Shake things up and make learning fun by introducing free investment and trading apps such as Kapitall and CASHFLOW. Kapitall allows you to assemble a portfolio worth $100,000 and track its progress easily. While CASHFLOW, patterned to a popular board-game, allows you to work at a variety of professions until you implement a successful investment strategy to become the next business mogul. These games help teens to grasp the investment concepts that they need later in life.

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As teens can become careless, continue to guide them throughout the process and never leave them “investing” on their own.

Sources: 1 & 2

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3 Brain Traps That Make You Spend More

Our brains are hugely interesting yet highly complex. Although it may seem like you have everything under your conscious control, your unconscious mind can play some tricks on you. It may trap your judgment with errors called cognitive biases. Cognitive biases are flaws caused by memory, statistical, and attribution errors.

Understanding and recognizing these biases in yourself is useful when managing or spending money. Awareness of these biases is the first step!

1. STATUS QUO BIAS

As I was looking for a new laptop online, my choice leaned towards the brand that I have been using for more than 4 years – the MacBook. Its competitor had touch screen, 360 bendable monitor, and is running on the new Windows software that enables you to download countless of Apps. For its specifications, the latter was the best choice but I still preferred the Macintosh.

This cognitive bias is called the Status Quo Bias. It occurs when you prefer a product that you know and had been using for a long while even if there is clearly a better option available. It maintains the status quo and avoids change.

2. FAMILIARITY BIAS

Similar to the Status Quo Bias, Familiarity Bias exists when you prefer the products and services that you are exposed more of. Are you only buying something for this reason? I hope not. Often smaller companies that are not able to afford costly advertising provide cheaper and more innovative products.

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3. ANCHORING BIAS

Anchoring bias occurs when you rely and focus heavily on the first piece of information you receive. This can potentially dictate your spending habits.

For instance, the first “Moroccan Argan Oil 200ml bottle” you saw online was worth S$100. Without knowing that retailers spend money on ads for their premium products, you quickly established a high benchmark. You are more likely to spend more than you would have if the very first product you saw in the search engine was worth S$20 (a real bargain)!


Instead of getting sucked into the effects of these biases, use your brain to your advantage by employing tricks to spend less and save more.

Sources: Time.com and Psychology of Love, Money, & Life (eBook)

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Why You’re Still In Debt After All This Time

TO LOW FOR COMFORT

Reason: Credit card is a highly convenient tool for payment; however, it can also be a very costly method for loaning money. If your paycheck is insufficient and you are using cards to cover your necessities such as weekly groceries or electricity bills, you will be put in debt for a long time.

Solution: You must think of ways to raise your income and savings including getting a part-time job, renting a cheaper room, and reducing your daily expenses.

KEEPING UP WITH THE FACADE

Reason: If you are spending lavishly in order to keep up with your ideal self, you can be quickly put in bankruptcy if you are not careful. In the outside you are seen as someone very successful because of your flashy BMW ride and your new huge flat. But little do others know that you have leased your BMW and rented some rooms of your flat.

Solution: Vanity and boastfulness is only for rich people. Live within your means.

FEELING THE BLUES

Reason: Studies have shown that debt is associated with various mental illnesses including depression. When you are depressed, you have a difficulty with paying the bills and you are more likely to feel down because of your inability to manage it. The reality of the situation is also clear to you.

Solution: Your harsh realistic view of the world can lead you astray. So divide your total debt into smaller pieces and set several goals to pay them off.

MINIMUM WILL DO

Reason: Banks love it when clients only pay for the minimum balance. Making the lowest possible payment leads to more interest and time spent in debt. It can become more unmanageable if your balance continues to grow while your income stays the same.

Solution: Pay more than the minimum requirement each month to cut your payoff time and interest.

HOLIDAYS’ SHOPPING SPREE

Reason: Many people rely on credit to cover the overwhelming costs of the holidays especially the Christmas-New Year season. This leads to starting the upcoming year off with a mount of debt. You better hide your plastic cards during those tempting seasons!

Solution: What you need during the holidays is support. You can either stay away from people who have a tendency to overspend or seek help from the credit experts at Credit Counselling Singapore.

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Sources: 1, 2, 3, & 4

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How To Get Lucky With Money And Life

Have you ever wondered why some people are lucky in love, money, and life while some are not?

Well…Mr. Bob Miglani and Dr. Richard Wiseman argues that there are several reasons and factors why people achieve success. In an article for the HUFFINGTONPOST, Bob Miglani – the author of “Embrace the Chaos”, shares some reasons why some people get so lucky in money and in life. Here are some of them:

1. PERVASIVE POSITIVITY

Start the day right by planting positive seeds as soon as you wake up. Make the conscious effort to choose good words (e.g., “Have a wonderful day!”) and positive actions (e.g., beginning with a prayer of gratitude) to overcome the limitations set by your mind. Let this positivism translate towards other parts of life by surrounding yourself with people who boost you up. Worry not about the negative people that slow you down.

2. CLEAR PURPOSE

People who are lucky set clear objectives and do their best to achieve them. Whether you want to provide well for your kids or you want to open a successful business, attract those goals to you by writing them down. Jump out of the bed each morning with a purpose as you truly have something valuable to give to the world!

3. FAILURES AND SUCCESS

Lucky people have a different perspective of setbacks and success. Although failures can be experienced by anyone, they keep on going because they know that they have the power to overcome it. This belief helps them to persevere through the failures.

Success, on the other hand, is not achieved through a straight path. Lucky people flow thru the uncharted waters and handle all the curves along the way to success.

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Aside from these reasons, Dr. Richard Wiseman – a Psychiatrist and an author of “The Luck Factor: The Four Essential Principles”, reveals that people are not born with good luck or bad luck. In fact, good luck results from a person’s good attitude. Here are ways to achieve that:

1. WINNING EXPECTATION

Expecting to win not only helps you to handle money but it also helps you to handle life. For instance: If you are going to a job interview, visualize that you have gotten the job already. As the interview commences, you will find yourself more relaxed and confident. This may lead you to performing better in the conversation and eventually landing the job.

2. NEW THINGS

Every new activity or products you try gives you the opportunity to become luckier. If you are trying to win the lottery, try entering the various types of sweepstakes to widen your range and luck. If you are trying to get a new job, try going to different places and even consider relocating overseas. Embrace new experiences and see how much you like them.

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