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How To Get Lucky With Money And Life

Have you ever wondered why some people are lucky in love, money, and life while some are not?

Well…Mr. Bob Miglani and Dr. Richard Wiseman argues that there are several reasons and factors why people achieve success. In an article for the HUFFINGTONPOST, Bob Miglani – the author of “Embrace the Chaos”, shares some reasons why some people get so lucky in money and in life. Here are some of them:

1. PERVASIVE POSITIVITY

Start the day right by planting positive seeds as soon as you wake up. Make the conscious effort to choose good words (e.g., “Have a wonderful day!”) and positive actions (e.g., beginning with a prayer of gratitude) to overcome the limitations set by your mind. Let this positivism translate towards other parts of life by surrounding yourself with people who boost you up. Worry not about the negative people that slow you down.

2. CLEAR PURPOSE

People who are lucky set clear objectives and do their best to achieve them. Whether you want to provide well for your kids or you want to open a successful business, attract those goals to you by writing them down. Jump out of the bed each morning with a purpose as you truly have something valuable to give to the world!

3. FAILURES AND SUCCESS

Lucky people have a different perspective of setbacks and success. Although failures can be experienced by anyone, they keep on going because they know that they have the power to overcome it. This belief helps them to persevere through the failures.

Success, on the other hand, is not achieved through a straight path. Lucky people flow thru the uncharted waters and handle all the curves along the way to success.

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Aside from these reasons, Dr. Richard Wiseman – a Psychiatrist and an author of “The Luck Factor: The Four Essential Principles”, reveals that people are not born with good luck or bad luck. In fact, good luck results from a person’s good attitude. Here are ways to achieve that:

1. WINNING EXPECTATION

Expecting to win not only helps you to handle money but it also helps you to handle life. For instance: If you are going to a job interview, visualize that you have gotten the job already. As the interview commences, you will find yourself more relaxed and confident. This may lead you to performing better in the conversation and eventually landing the job.

2. NEW THINGS

Every new activity or products you try gives you the opportunity to become luckier. If you are trying to win the lottery, try entering the various types of sweepstakes to widen your range and luck. If you are trying to get a new job, try going to different places and even consider relocating overseas. Embrace new experiences and see how much you like them.

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Irrational Financial Beliefs That Most People Have

Let me start by defining what irrationality and irrational beliefs are. Irrationality is thinking or acting through emotional distress, insufficient use of reason, or cognitive deficiency. Thus irrational beliefs are the baseless opinions, attitudes, and values you possess that are beyond what the world really is. Particularly, your irrational beliefs about money shape how you spend.

Start by recognizing your irrationality with the 4 Irrational Financial Beliefs That Most People Have…

1. MONEY CAN BUY ME LOVE AND ATTENTION

If you believe that you can gain the affection and attention of others by earning enough money then, you are on the wrong track! Even if you are the shiniest dollar in the bank, you can’t please everybody.

When you put earning money as your top priority instead of valuing your family and friends, your self-worth will shrink once you lose your wealth. It is better to focus on the things that you can control – loving yourself and paying attention to others.

2. YOU CAN NEVER HAVE ENOUGH MONEY

Irrationality happens when you are not dealing with the truth of what really is and what you would like it to be. Your high expectations affect what you consider as “enough” money. Most people tend to accumulate debt by trying to reach this point of “enough”.

Instead of believing in this irrationality, live within your means by fulfilling your needs. Begin with the basic needs such as survival and security. Then allocate a portion of your money for your wants. Reach the lifestyle you desire by smart money management and not by debt.

3. MONEY CAN BUY HAPPINESS

I am sure you know people who believe that money is the quintessential source of their happiness. However, according to the words of Dr. Kathleen Gurney (CEO of Financial Psychology Corporation): “It’s not money that makes you happy…it’s how you use it.”

Studies show that you will get more satisfaction if you spend your cash towards memorable experiences such as vacations than towards material things such as a new table. Likewise, lending out possessions can help you enjoy the material things that your money bought.

4. MANAGING YOUR FINANCES TAKES LITTLE EFFORT

If you are one of those people who merely go by what the bank says and do cannot seem to organize your financial affairs then, you might be in trouble. Your bills and loans will not just go away on its own! It takes valued time and consistent effort to get your finances straight. Avoiding your responsibilities may make you happier in the short run but it will haunt you long after. So invest on real commitments and pay attention to details. If you are married, it is good to consult your spouse for all things related to money.

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Powerful Tips To Conquer Your Financial Stress

Losing your primary source of income, drowning in a sea of debt, and other money problems can affect both your financial circumstance and your self-esteem. It is normal to feel anxious, stressed, and worried when times are hard but that does not mean that you are suffering from depression or anxiety disorders.

In fact, according to an international poll by Reader’s Digest back in 2009, Singapore was one of the countries most worried about money. When not managed, the financial stress can be detrimental to one’s health.

Here are some tips to conquer your inner beast:

BREATHE IN AND OUT

Avoid excessive thinking by slowing down. Whenever you feel like you are going to burst, calm yourself down. Breathe in and out, hold your breath for a while, breathe slowly and repeat. A higher form of this practice is called meditation.

If you need a guided tutorial to aid you through meditation, you can download the free “Take a Break! Guided Meditations for Stress Relief” app on your iOS or Android device. You can choose to listen with or without the music as you listen to the 7-13 minutes of guided meditation. No prior experience required!

LIVING IN THE PRESENT

Several financial woes come from the anticipation of unfortunate future events. Sometimes, these anticipation is more than just pure exaggeration. This is why you must remind yourself that you are living in the present moment – not in the past, nor in the future.

Stay active in the present by being completely in control. Keep your C.V. updated, pay the bills on time, and jog outdoors!

RECOGNIZE YOUR STRENGTH

In general, the uncertainty and perceived lack of control can make the person feel more stressful. But as I said, you are living in the present moment where you are in absolute control of your actions and your thoughts. Recognize that your decisions exist for you to improve any financial dilemma.

SHARE YOUR EXPERIENCES

When your financial circumstances is too hard to handle, seek refuge from the people who can offer you the listening ears (e.g. friends, family, support group or financial professional). These people can offer sound solutions and make you feel better. Personally, I find this tip therapeutic as I can freely express and let go of my worries and share it to a person who affirms and understands me the most.

COUNT YOUR BLESSINGS

Before you go to sleep or the after you wake up, think of three things you are thankful about. This changes your focus from your financial stress to the beautiful things that you might have taken for granted. It does not have to be a big and lavish thing as you can be thankful for the picturesque sunset.

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Practicing this activity often will help you gain a positive outlook in life and an increase in overall satisfaction.

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How To Finally Get A Raise This 2016!

Since the new year is about starting afresh and realizing one’s potentials, evaluating your salary is one of the top priorities. If you are seeking for a higher salary, do not open a discussion with your boss unless you are fully prepared.

Consider these 6 things to help you prepare:

1. SHOW THAT YOU DESERVE IT

Say that an important project is due in a couple of days. Send your boss an email of your progress to avoid constant request for project updates. The simple act of anticipating what is needed before it is asked can show that you are capable of working independently. You not only sent a positive reflection of your working etiquette but also made your boss’ life job easier.

2. DO YOUR RESEARCH

Negotiating your salary is a game with all of its players attempting to dominate each other. Dominate the game by researching all the needed information. Go in-depth about the complete aspects of the job and the company. Also, collect data about the average pay and accurate salary opportunities in your position.

3. DEVELOP A BACK-UP PLAN

If the company’s current situation cannot afford to give you the raise you deserve, consider suggesting alternative options such as commission-based pay (if appropriate) or performance-based bonus.

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4. MAKE A GOOD IMPRESSION

During the discussion, greet your boss in a friendly and light manner by smiling and shaking hands. Say your gratitude as he or she spared some time to arrange a meeting for you. Your boss’ mood can change depending on how you approached the room.

5. ASK FOR MORE THAN YOU ACTUALLY WANT

Your first offer must be slightly higher than what you want to avoid remorse and to give you a room to bargain. It uses the door-in-the-face technique wherein the employee starts with a huge and unreasonable request in order for the employer to settle with a smaller request.

6. COMPETE

Negotiating a salary is a conversation that aims to reach an agreement with someone whose interests are not perfectly aligned with yours. Use persuasion and assertion if necessary as scientific research showed that competition is a successful negotiation strategy!

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Eternally Free Ways To Get Your Groove Back

If you are feeling tired, overwhelmed, stressed, bored, or lethargic then, you may have lost your groove or “mojo” (as Austin Powers calls it).

Groove refers to the energy and power to perform things easily and exceptionally. When you are in the groove, you are unstoppable at work and other areas of your life!

Losing it is unavoidable due to financial setbacks, breakups, and other unfortunate circumstances.

There will be days when you feel like you are not fully yourself. I too experience writer’s block every once in a while. But it is important to pick yourself up, shake off the past, and move on.

Reclaim what is rightfully yours by following these tips:

1. DO MORE OF WHAT MAKES YOU HAPPY

Happiness is an essential source of vigor. Begin by writing down a list of activities where you had so much fun. Re-live each moment mentally by reminiscing your happy times. Then, elevate your energy by recreating a couple or more of these activities.

2. TAKE GOOD CARE OF YOURSELF

Being in a rut does not mean that you have to look rotten too! Research suggests that if you look fabulous outside, you will feel fabulous inside. So style your hair differently, put on your favorite cosmetics, or wear clothes that make you feel stunning. Pretty soon you will realize that your groove relies on the self-confidence within.

3. TRAIN YOUR THOUGHTS

In the period of groove loss, you may experience a repetition of negative thoughts or worries. This is called rumination. Rumination can take a toll on your physical and mental well being. Solve this by training your thoughts.

Once it spirals off to the dark abyss, bring back the light by redirecting your mind to the positive memories, grateful thoughts, or anything pleasant. You may have to do this several times consciously until it comes naturally.

4. SHY AWAY FROM ELECTRONICS

It is easy to take things for granted because of how convenient everything is with modern technology. Say you are making a slogan for your ad campaign, instead of spending countless minutes browsing on your thesaurus, you just spend seconds to Google the synonyms.

I know you are tempted to drown yourself on K-Dramas or other television series when you feel low on “mojo” but it is hard to move on if you are avoiding things. Practice an electronics sabbatical by turning of the television, your laptop, tablets, and other devices for at least 3 days. Use this time to have an interesting conversation with your partner or kids. Tidy up your closet or organize your files as long as you do something productive and optimistic.

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