How To Deal with Toxic Family Members

Can you feel the magic in the air? It is whimsical breeze of the holiday season. As the year ends, you have to prepare for countless family gatherings and reunions. While there is no way to completely escape the stressful and awkward situations brought by these parties, there are things you can do to deal with these situations more effectively.

Slow down and relax – it will be over eventually. With that firmly in mind, you will be able to tackle any other situation. Enhance your coping skills by knowing what toxic behaviors are.

Toxic behaviors are unpleasant and unsupportive behaviors, which include people who are being manipulative, judgmental, controlling, and self-centered. Common traits of toxic people, according to licensed clinical social worker Sharon Martin, include:

a. Not showing concern for your feelings, needs, or rights
b. Acting harsh and critical
c. Calling you names
d. Violating your boundaries over and over
e. Refusing to compromise with you on anything
f. Acting entitled
g. Always having to be right
h. Feeling the rules don’t apply to them
i. Making unfair demands on you
j. Not taking responsibility for their actions
k. Blaming others for their mistakes or flaws
l. Rarely saying they’re sorry for something
m. Wild mood and behavior swings, and sessions of rage
n. Lying and/or guilting you to get their way
o. Manipulating you to get to control or take advantage of you and others to get what they want

When you encounter toxic behaviors during family gatherings, remember that you do not always have to agree with these people.


You do not always have to agree with your family. Family can be your main source of comfort and strength, but it can also be a source of stress. It is not your responsibility to agree with all the beliefs, political views, and other sentiments of your relatives. There is no rule that says that you must have a good relationship with everyone in your family. You have to accept that.


Toxic people are not motivated to change their behavior. Instead of aiming to change their ways, set your boundaries to protect yourself. For instance, you can politely decline a call request if your sibling continues to curse at you on the phone. State your needs and feelings directly.



People who fail to develop a strong sense of self usually depend on what others say or do not say. These people rely on the presence of others, especially in the presence of family. Observe yourself. Do you manage the anxiety of everyone in your family instead of your own?

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Look inside yourself to manage your feelings and behaviors. Ignoring your own needs results in anxiety and discomfort whenever you are surrounded by multiple family members at once.


To limit the amount of personal information you share, you can emotionally and physically distance yourself. Say your aunt mocks you and makes sarcastic comments about your weight. This is your cue to share as little as possible with her in the future, especially when it comes to your fitness journey.

You do not have to answer private questions too! You can reply by saying: “I would rather not talk about it”.


Do not waste your energy on things or scenarios that you cannot control. Instead, devote your energy to tasks and actions that are within your power. Begin the process of healing or restoration.


Turn the question around to make them feel the burn. In many cases, the most awkward questions can be defused by answering the question with another question. Let them answer their own question or at least provide them with a few hints about what they want to hear from you.

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How To Throw An Inexpensive Rainbow-Themed Party

Rainbow is one of the most timeless, cheerful, and popular themes for parties. Rainbow parties can be used to celebrate birthdays, promotions, graduations, or reunions. It adds a layer of positivity that can give any bunch an excuse to have fun!

Combining all the beautiful colors of the rainbow can be intimidating for some. After all, you have to pack a variety of colors in one party. Do not fret! There are a few rainbow party ideas that can make your theme shine.


They say that first impressions last. What better way to make an impact than by making sending out some vibrant invitations. There are two ways to create a low-cost invitation. Firstly, you may get some paint sample swatches at your nearby hardware store. Cut these swatches into strips and glue them on the paper. Have your child write the details to add a playful touch. Afterwards, photocopy or scan this invitation and distribute.

Lastly, you may create a rainbow in an envelope. Surprise your friends by following this simple printable. You will only need two sheets of paper, including an envelope. This printable is free for download!


When it comes to rainbow-themed decorations, you can either buy or make your own. Start with the hanging decors – the streamers or buntings. You can make a DIY Zigzag Accordion Streamer cutting papers vertically in an alternate manner. Do this with assorted colors of paper. Nonetheless, you may purchase rainbow buntings for less than S$10 at Lazada Singapore.

Let us focus on the centerpieces of your table. Welcome your guests with attractive blooms dipped in colored water. Dye the water inside the vase, before putting the flowers. Be as creative as you can! Lastly, you may create Rainbow Salt Jars with your beloved kids. Simply pour salt on a piece or paper to cover about 1/4 of your chosen recycled jar. Then, let your children rub their chosen colored chalk back and forth across the salt. Pour your colored salt inside the recycled jar until your reach your desired look. This is a tactile activity that will delight your kids and amp up your party!

People who are not blessed with time can simply purchase online. You may check out Lazada Singapore for cheap decorations such as rainbow pinwheels, rainbow latex balloons, and rainbow inflatable foil balloons.


Your games can either take the classic route or the contemporary twist. Firstly, you can facilitate a “Pin the Cloud on the Rainbow” or a “Pin a Horn on the Unicorn” while the player is blindfolded.

Secondly, you may use colored cereals to make your own rainbow. Watch your children create patterns using the different colors of Fruit Loops! Prior to this, you may conduct a “sorting” activity to let out a few snacking and giggling.

Lastly, you can purchase the six-dollar Inflatable Rabbit Ear Ring Toss. This product is made of high-quality PVC, non-toxic, and wear- resistant material. Begin the game by grouping the players into pairs. One player shall wear the rabbit ear hat. While, the other shall toss the rings into it. The team with most rings will win!


My favorite part of any party is the food! When it comes to rainbow food, you may let your wild thoughts flow!

A. Rainbow Fruit Skewers are both delicious and healthy. Both adults and children can enjoy snacking on these sticks!

B. Rainbow Marshmallows are as tasty as it sounds! Simply put a marshmallow into a stick. Dip this in chocolate syrup and coat it with sprinkles.

C. Unicorn Ice Cream is as elusive as you may think! Recently, Cornetto introduced its latest flavor called the Unicornetto. It is easy to spot this flavor with its holographic wrapper! Inside its eye-catching wrapper is a cotton candy and marshmallow ice cream appearing in a pastel mix of blue and purple colors. In the middle of the pink cone is strawberry jam. What’s more? The toppings are pastel white and pink chocolate crisps. The mere act of typing these made my sugar rush! The Unicornetto costs about S$2.80 at selected 7-Eleven outlets islandwide.

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May your rainbow-themed party lead you to a pot of golden memories in the end!

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Break The Ice With These Money Magic Tricks

To get through the awkward initial phase of a party or a conversation, the ice must be broken!

There are many ways to liven up a party such as playing trivia game, eating appetizers, or asking hilarious questions. How about performing magic tricks? Well, consider using coins to awe the crowd with the following money magic tricks!


You will be needing metal rings, coins, papers, and playing cards for this magic trick. Start by showing a ring, a playing card, and a coin. These items should be placed on the piece of paper. Then, the ring and playing card will be stacked on the top of the coin. When the ring and card are removed, the coin will completely disappear!

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How was it done? The secret to this easy trick is to have an extra sheet of the same paper. Use it to cut a circle following the diameter of the second ring. Then, attach it to the bottom of the second “gimmick” ring. The spectators will believe the coin vanished in thin air. Get the full steps at The Spruce Crafts.


Although you have a tight budget, it does not matter! You can put on a show with just a cloth and a coin.

Perform a coin vanishing trick anytime and anywhere with the “Magic Cloth”. Simply insert a coin into a piece of cloth or a dramatic red handkerchief. Say your seemingly magical words! In a blink of an eye, the coin will mysteriously disappear.

How can this happen? Well, the coin will be kept in a tiny pocket formed using a rubber band. Full details are here:


The last trick is so easy that it can be performed by your blindfolded kid. Have a spectator randomly select a coin from a bowl. Ask this person to write his or her initials on it. Afterwards, command the spectator to whisper something to it for added effect. Let him or her place the coin inside the bowl.

Without looking, you can immediately reach into the bowl and select the marked coin. The secret to this trick is finding a coin with a different texture (i.e., rough or smooth, wet or dry).

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When all else fails, you can purchase a tool to help you fool the audience with your money tricks. Begin your search in Amazon! 🙂


4 Eggciting And Affordable Places To Be On Easter

We are days away from Easter! It is the time for Easter bunnies, egg hunting, high teas, and family gatherings. Celebrate this special occasion of hope and fun in one of these four exciting places, which will cost you under S$50.


Spanning approximately 520 hectares, “The Great Egg-Venture at Sentosa Harbourfront” proves to be Singapore’s largest egg hunt. From the top of Mount Faber to the Sentosa Island itself, participants shall hunt for 60 eggs. The eggs were beautifully hand-painted by the artists from Affordable Art Fair, the students from Temasek Polytechnic, and the youths from FamChamps.

These eggs are not hard to miss as they each have a height of 1.8 meters. More than S$50,000 worth of prizes awaits you! Beyond this, your family can enjoy several activities at the Sentosa Egg Fiesta – Garden Edition.

Price/s: Free


Hop into The Lawn as CHIJMES brings you a hit Easter Party. Start the day with a high tea suitable for adults and children. Then help your children find the Easter eggs containing various prizes such as S$100 worth of dining vouchers. After hunting some lucky eggs, let your kids play on the bouncy castle and get their faces painted for free!

Tickets are available at the concierge counter daily.

Price/s: S$10/person for the Easter High Tea, S$5 for Easter Egg Hunt, S$5 for Easter Egg Painting


Window on the Park’s “A Cracking Easter Celebration” will delight your tummies as you feast on hearty roasts, local favorites, sumptuous desserts, and more. From Sautéed Beef with Spring Root Vegetables to Lamb Stew with Chickpeas and Pumpkin, Holiday Inn has got you covered for lunch or dinner. To embrace the spirit of this joyous occasion, there will be fun activities such as Easter egg painting. Deviating from the public, their Easter celebration is set on 31st March.

Price/s: S$35 nett for lunch and S$40 nett for dinner


For adults, celebrate Easter on a uniquely exhilarating note by plunging into the WET® Pool deck to participant in an aquatic egg hunt. In the “Eggxotic Summer Pool Party”, guests are welcome to sink or float to find a basketful of 100 eggs submerged in the pool. Win a myriad of EASTERRIFIC prizes such as a staycation at W Singapore, dining treats at SKIRT, and a lovely experience at WOOBAR.

On 26th March, the party will continue to turn up as DJs Shigeki, Patrick Oliver, and MR HAS will be mixing the beats all day!

Price/s: S$35 nett (inclusive of a drink and pool access)

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4 Amazing Ways To Save Big On Your Kid’s Birthday Party



If your budget does not allow you to invite your child’s entire class, then you do not have to. Instead, you can opt for the “age plus one rule”. For instance, if you are planning to throw a party for your 5-year-old, then invite 6 guests. Keep the numbers down by making it clear that the guests’ siblings are not invited.

Aside from that, you can forgo printing services by sending out electronic invitations through Facebook or Email. This works just as fine!


If your home does not have enough space, parties can be hosted at the local park or playground.

For a playground venue that kids will surely love, go to Tiong Bahru Adventure Playground. Tiong Bahru Adventure Playground’s center has a train-themed structure that is perfect for your boy’s Thomas the Tank party. There is also a little maze and a merry-go-round.

For a park venue, consider having it at East Coast Park as its wide open spaces is suitable for energetic party games and active guests. While parks are generally free, if you are planning an organized party, some parks do require permission to be given ahead of time.


A children’s party will not be complete without the party goodie or loot bag. Assemble your own loot bag by purchasing S$2 brown or white paper bags from Daiso and decorating it with colored markers. Put a multitude of sweets and stickers that are also available at Daiso, for the same price.


There are two exciting yet affordable party themes that you must try, namely: Circle Party and Indoor Games Party. The circle party is ideal for children aged 2-4. You start by decorating the place with all things circle such as balls, balloons, polka dots, and candies. Then, keep the activities simple such as running while forming a circle.

For children beyond age 5, you can entertain them with a party that is filled with board games, cards, and puzzles.

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If you need to purchase a board game, you may check out Toys “R” Us. Toys “R” Us provides huge selection of toys and infant products that are priced to give you value for you money. Round up the guests and play the Disney Assorted Inlay Wood Puzzles (S$9.95), UNO® Disney Frozen Cards (S$11.90), or the Pavilion Giant Snakes & Ladders (S$19.95)!

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