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How To Survive Awkward Holiday Gatherings

This is the season when party invitations pour in. From family gatherings to company celebrations, the holiday cheer assails you from every angle. Not everyone holds the cheerful tune in the same manner.

If you have social anxiety or have a tendency to be awkward during parties, then you are not alone. Many people experience “holiday anxiety”. Here are some ways to deal with it…

#1: EMBRACE THE SMALL TALK

Whether you like it or not, small talk is the core of social gatherings. If you label yourself as a person who is not good at conversation, you might be so stressed about the things you say that you end up saying nothing at all. Navigate through casual conversations by preparing for it.

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Share at least two interests or experiences. Or better yet, dwell on the new things that you can learn from the person that you are talking to. Focus on the other person. Ask simple questions such as “What keeps you busy?” or “How do you see your field changing a few years time?” You may also ask a couple about the story of how they met.

#2: ACCEPT THE PARTY DYNAMICS

Be honest with yourself! You probably get along better with your friends than your family or co-workers. That is completely understandable. You have chosen your friends based on your compatibilities. Being with them this holiday season can be a breeze!

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While, family members are fixed whether you are like-minded or not. Accepting this fact can help you quit expecting to get along with everyone. Instead, focus on loving your family in spite of your differences.

#3: BE OPEN TO STRANGERS

Parties are the breeding grounds of strangers. I know that you are way beyond the “stranger danger” stage, but you might be worried about meeting new people. The anticipation of interacting with strangers can stimulate personal questions such as will you be boring or weird during the conversation. Stop ruminating about these thoughts!

Remember that a conversation is a two-way street. It is not your duty to carry the talk the entire night! If the person seems uninterested or less chatty, he or she may be tired or preoccupied. Who knows? This person may be socially awkward too.

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Above all else, you must do your best to stay present in the moment. Post your holiday photos a day or two later. You do not need to compete online or keep up with the people who brag about how amazing their holiday experiences are!

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3 Budget-Friendly Hen Party Ideas

A hen party is a bride’s last hurrah before she ties the knot. Thus, it needs to be a special. Surprise your beloved bridal squad with these creative hen party ideas.

LET THE SWAPPING BEGIN

As fashionistas, your friends may be interested to throw a “Wardrobe Swapping Night”. Start by choosing a venue by volunteering your own flat or your fellow bridesmaid’s. After setting a venue, give the guests an ample amount of time to raid their closets. Ensure that everyone will bring clothing articles or accessories of good condition. Encourage each bridesmaid to share a story behind each item before starting the swap. Stories and negotiations will get better over a few drinks.

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Not only will you free up some space in your closet, but you will be able to pass your stylish item to a friend that has been eyeing it for ages!

EXPLORE THE GREAT OUTDOORS

For adventurous brides who choose to navigate their lives on the active lane, you may explore the country’s great outdoors! A weekend spent trekking, camping, and cycling is equally frugal and fantastic. Isn’t it amazing to let your hair down and not worry about how you will look for a few days?

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Enjoy dressing down and connecting with Mother Nature by visiting the Southern Ridges and the East Coast Park. The former is one of Singapore’s best walking trails, which covers Mt. Faber, Kent Ridge, Hort, and Telok Blangah Hill parks. It spans through 10 kilometers of lush forest and canopy walkways. While, the latter is the perfect place to have a picnic with friends. Do not forget to bring water, sunscreen, and a hat. See the website of National Parks for more details.

TAKE THE TRADITIONAL ROUTE

One of the things that I look forward to experience as a child was having my friends over at my house. Relive your treasured youthful memories by having an adult sleepover. Suitable for a small group of people, having a sleepover entails an intimate hen party experience. What’s more? You will be able to have proper chats while drinking your favorite booze.

Once your venue is set (e.g., the bride’s flat), encourage everyone to bring their share of treats and drinks. Have a supply of indoor games ready as well. Do not forget the classic Twister, Scrabble, and Truth or Dare. You may also put a twist to these classic games by putting the groom’s face all over the cards or other cheeky hints. Have your Netflix account ready as well!

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The Real Cost Of Hiring A Helper In Singapore

Our concrete jungle has wired us to focus mainly on work. As work occupies most of your day, it is easy to take domestic life for granted. To handle the so-called burden of managing your household chores while you tackle occupational responsibilities, you may turn to a maid agency for help.

Let us be honest! It is becoming a fairly common practice to hire domestic help in Singapore. Many families come from dual-income households where both parents work long hours. Who will be left to take care of the children, elderly relatives, and chores?

There are various reasons why you may hire a helper. Whatever your reasons are, here are the initial and monthly costs that you can expect.

UPFRONT COSTS

The following are some of the initial costs that you need to pay as an employer of a foreign domestic worker.

a. Agency Fees: about S$1,000
b. Settling-in Programme: S$75
c. Work Permit Application: S$30
d. Work Permit Issuance: S$30
e. Security Deposit: S$5,000
f. Foreign Domestic Worker Levy: S$60-S$265
g. Medical and Personal Accident Insurance: about S$250 per month spanning 26 months

The estimated total will amount to more than S$6,000. Now, let us put a spotlight on each element.

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#1: MONTHLY SALARY

To determine someone’s monthly salary, you must consider several factors. Experience and relevant training are just some of the main factors. Not to mention, the applicant’s nationality plays a part too.

The Philippines’ government recently reduced the number of domestic helpers entering Singapore. With the reduced manpower supply, expect salaries to increase accordingly. That being said, the minimum salary for a Philippine domestic helper is S$570. On the other hand, Indonesian authority set its minimum domestic helper salary to about S$500. Lastly, the minimum salary that you can expect to pay to a foreign domestic worker (FDW) from Sri Lanka is S$400.

Other miscellaneous costs include food, accommodation, medical expenses, and travel expenses.

#2: EMPLOYER’S ORIENTATION PROGRAMME

As the name suggests, Employer’s Orientation Programme or EOP is tailored to the employers who are looking to employ some FDWs. It is recommended for employers who are hiring a foreign domestic worker for the first time or have changed workers on a frequent basis. This program lasts for 3 hours and can be both taken in a classroom or online setting. Classroom setting costs about S$30 to S$34. While, the online setting costs about S$46. After all, you are paying for convenience!

Learn more information about EOP by checking this link: mom.gov.sg.

#3: SECURITY BOND

How many times have you encountered a damage deposit or damage bond in your life? One to many, I suppose. A damage deposit ensures that you return an item in good condition. Similar mechanics can be applied to the FDW security bond.

If you are employing a Non-Malaysian domestic helper, you have to pay about S$5,000 to the Singapore government. This security bond ensures the safety of the domestic helper should you break any laws governing the employment. You will eventually be discharged from the security bond when you meet the following requirements:

a. You cancelled your foreign domestic worker’s Work Permit
b. You did not breach any conditions of the said bond
c. Your FDW has returned home

#4: AGENCY FEES

There are more than 500 maid agencies in Singapore, which are licensed by the Ministry of Manpower. Only licensed maid agencies can act as middlemen in finding related jobs in the country. Agency fees vary greatly depending on the services included. They do not usually publish their fees unless you inquire, but you can expect to pay around S$1,000. Be wary if you only have to pay S$200 or less.

#5: FOREIGN DOMESTIC WORKER LEVY

The FDW levy, paid directly to the Singapore government, costs about S$265 on a monthly basis. However, you can qualify for the concessionary rate of S$60 per month. Levy concession is “part of the package to support Singaporeans needing care”.

An employer with a young child or grandchild, an elderly person, or a person with disability living at the registered address can apply for the levy concessionary rate. Learn more about this by going to mom.gov.sg.

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Entertaining Money Activities For Kids

Financial literacy starts to develop while you are young. Discussing financial skills with your children through stories and practice is crucial to their development. Aside from this, they can learn through the examples you set. Hence, you have to find entertaining yet strategic ways to introduce some money concepts.

Teaching children how to count money does not have to be a snooze fest! Pass down positive financial matters through these money activities:

#1: CREATE FLUFFY ANIMAL BANKS

Introduce the concept of saving directed to a specific goal. Simply ask your children what they want to buy with their money. You may provide recommendations of the toys, video games, gadgets, and stationery items that they shall save money for. After identifying the end goal, provide your child with an assortment of art materials that they can use to create their own animal bank. Below are just some of the suggested materials that you can use:

a. hot glue gun
b. scissors
c. googly eyes
d. egg cartons
e. milk cans
f. empty coffee cups
g. baby food jars
h. newspaper
i. glitter glue
j. clear glue
k. markers and pencils

This project also presents an opportunity for you to introduce the importance of recycling. Gather recyclable supplies and be as creative as possible. Afterwards, you may have your children draw the specific item on the side of the animal bank. Through this, they will be motivated to get what they want.

#2: DIG THROUGH THE SLIME

Children love messy play! However, adults have a hard time cleaning it up. What if I told you that you can conduct a “messy play” activity with little mess? Well, start by buying a clear slime. Slime consists of non-toxic viscous material such as guar gum. Squishy and gooey are just some of the words that can best describe this toy.

Slime is a great sensory toy. Sensory toys are designed to tap the child’s five senses. By using slime, you can introduce new financial concepts by encouraging exploration. You can help your child understand the world around him or her by putting coins inside the slime. Ask your child to sort all the coins that he or she digs up. Interestingly, you may join your child as slime can have a calming effect on an adult. It shifts the focus from the demands of work to the unique texture of this toy.

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#3: DRAW YOUR OWN NOTES

As a preschool teacher, I have witnessed how fond most kids are of scribbling and illustrating. They want to draw on different papers, tables, walls, and mirrors. Do not get me started with what they do when they are handed with a paint brush! Put this artistic energy to good use by asking your children to draw their own “Singapore notes”.

Encourage them to put the faces of each family member. This will evoke a fun reflection of how your child sees the people around him or her. Provide colorful papers with a measurement of 5″ by 2″. Then lay other art materials such as rulers, pencils, colored markers, and wavy scissors. Use these notes to help your child practice the basics of mathematics and the importance of currency.

#4: UPGRADE ON THE FIDGET SPINNER

For some reason, most boys are attracted to spinning objects. These spinning objects provide a distraction that can preoccupy them for countless of minutes. Mimic this effect by creating a coin spinner!

Start by getting an empty cereal box or any cardboard. Then, gather your hot glue gun, markers, pencils, and dollar coins. Use a cup to perfectly trace a circle along the cardboard. Cut accordingly. Then, cut a slit in the center that resembles the exact measurement of a dollar coin. Put the dollar in the center with the help of a hot glue gun. When you are done, you can easily peel off the glue without damaging the coin.

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How Do You Choose Between Love And Money?

As I was listening to Frank Sinatra’s song entitled “Love and Marriage”, I realized how different we perceive marriage today. The song highlights how marriage cannot exist without love. These two elements were believed to go together like a horse and a carriage. These days, marriage does not depend on the presence of love.

When Singaporeans are given a choice to weigh between the importance of love and marriage, answers will vary. Firstly, Singaporeans are heavily goal-oriented. They will ask you about the gains that they can reap when doing a specific task. Very few people will do something without asking what is in it for them. Perhaps this is due to the competitive education system or the exhausting high cost of living. There is simply no time left to mess around! Either way, the goal-driven mentality leaves little room for flexibility in a relationship. People constantly ask themselves what they can achieve within a potential relationship.

In addition to reaching their goals, Singaporeans are motivated to move out of their parents’ home. The primary obstacles blocking their paths are the housing laws governing the HDB properties. You see, only singles aged 35 and above can purchase HDB properties. Another alternative is to tackle the overwhelming prices of private properties and monthly rents. This is why many couples see marriage as a way out!

Say that you are waving the flag of commitment. Couples are given six months to tie the knot upon receiving keys to their new property. Otherwise, you can face a major monetary loss. Keep this in mind when deciding to propose.

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Personally, I see how money leans on love and vice versa. You have to make a living at some point. No matter how smitten you are about this person, one or both you need to do something to pay the monthly expenses. Money is important to make your marriage work. Yes! Money may not be able to buy your happiness, but you can use your free time to work on things that you are passionate about. Lastly, things you do solely for love can be transformed into profitable ventures (e.g., passion projects).

Ultimately, taking control of your life is a choice. You get to choose how you spend your money. You get to choose whom you will spend it with. You get to choose who and what you will love. Hence, your challenge is to create a lifestyle that gives you freedom.

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