Caning of children: When is it child abuse as explained by lawyers

A child waiting to be caned

Did you know that in July 2019, France became the 55th state to prohibit corporal punishment of children? Most recently, Japan also jumped on the bandwagon to ban corporal punishment at home.

Back in our days, parents had the freedom to exercise punishments as they deem fit. But with the rise in child abuse reports, there seem to be more eyeballs on the matter these days.

If you’re a parent or a caregiver, it’s even more important that you know when to draw the line. Here are what the law and the lawyers are saying about child abuse.

Children and Young Persons Act

Under this act, inflicting unnecessary physical pain, suffering or injury, any emotional harm, or injury to a child’s health or development equates to ill-treatment.

When does parental corporal punishment become a criminal offence?
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According to Mr Ray Louis, a criminal lawyer and managing director of Ray Louis Law, here are the two questions he would ask:

  • Why the child was punished
  • How he or she was punished

He gave the example of a child being punished for not “scoring all As”. 

“Can a parent punish a child for that? That’s a judgment call (for the parent)… but how is the child punished? If it’s no meals, bruises on the legs and feet… then obviously the line has been crossed,” he explained.

When it is not abuse

Mr Ashwin Ganapathy, a partner at I.R.B. Law specializing in family law and criminal defence, clarifies with a scenario that shouldn’t be deemed as abuse.

For example, if an adult canes a child’s palm once because of wrongdoings like stealing, then “no one will be jumping” on the punishment because stealing is a crime.

“It is better to nip the problem in the bud,” he said. “People may disagree with the disciplinary method, but I do not believe anyone will see that as abuse.”

Case study

A scenario would greatly aid us in our discussion of this topic. Earlier this month, a 33-year-old man was sentenced on Friday (Aug 7) to nine months’ jail on the charge of ill-treating a child by causing him unnecessary physical pain.

In short, the man vented his frustrations on his three-year-old son, caning him excessively and leaving marks all over his body. This was eventually spotted by the boy’s grandmother which led to a police report.

According to the news, these were reasons for caning:

  • When the boy did not tell his father when his diapers were full
  • The boy did not tell his father what he wanted
  • Or when the child snatched items from his sister or other children
  • Stressed after a day of work
  • Pressured over financial troubles such as his salary or having to pay maintenance to his ex-wife

Mr Lee Ee Yang, the managing director of law firm Covenant Chambers said: “The proportionality is definitely infringed upon because the cane marks were found all over… it does not correspond to the severity of the transgression.”

“If the child is not cognitively developed in a way where they can appreciate the severity of the punishment… you’re not really educating the child,” he added.

Public awareness needed
Child abuse

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Responding to banning corporal punishment, Mr Louis highlighted that public education and awareness have a greater role to play in curbing child abuse cases.

“The more publicity there is on the ways to report suspected abuse, the risk of children getting abused will be lesser,” he said.

Spare the rod and spoil the child? It’s about time we rethink this.

If you have concerns over a child’s safety, please dial MSF’s Child Protective Service Helpline (1800 777 000) or ComCare Call (1800 222 0000).

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HDB's August 2020 BTO Starting Prices

Choose your home from 11 new Build-To-Order (BTO) projects that offer a total of 7,862 units of 2-room Flexi, 3-, 4-, and 5-room flats:

  • Keat Hong Verge in Choa Chu Kang
  • Parc Residences @ Tengah
  • Champions Bliss and UrbanVille @ Woodlands
  • Kebun Baru Edge in Ang Mo Kio
  • Bishan Towers
  • Dakota One in Geylang
  • Costa Grove in Pasir Ris
  • Tampines GreenCrestTampines GreenGlade, and Tampines GreenOpal

Apply for your choice town and flat type by 18 August 2020, Tuesday, 11:59pm.

Information on the BTO projects is available on the HDB InfoWEB. You can apply online using your mobile phone, tablet, or computer without visiting the HDB Hub. Successful applicants will be determined by a computer ballot, and not on a first-come, first-served basis.


For other housing options, you can apply for HDB’s open booking of flats, which allows you to book a flat as early as the next working day after you have made an online application. You can also find out the location and number of flats in our upcoming BTO sales exercises.

Important Notes

HDB precincts are planned to serve the evolving needs of the community. There are spaces catered for future inclusion of amenities/ facilities (such as childcare centres, elderly-related facilities, education centres, residents’ committee centres, and day activity centres), commercial facilities (such as shops and eating houses), mechanical and electrical rooms, and such other facilities depending on the prevailing needs. These spaces could be in the void decks, common property, car parks, or stand-alone community buildings.

To facilitate your flat application, we have provided information on the surrounding land use, proposed facilities, and their locations in the maps and plans in this brochure. As the information provided is based on the current planning intent of the relevant authorities, they are indicative only and are subject to review from time to time.

Notes:
* 2-room Flexi flats come in two sizes – 36/37/38 sqm (Type 1) and 45/46 sqm (Type 2).
^ The starting prices of flats in the table above are based on 99-year leases. For illustration purposes, the assumed Enhanced CPF Housing Grant (EHG) amounts are:
2-room Flexi flat: $80,000
3-room flat: $75,000 in non-mature towns and $60,000 in mature towns
4-room flat: $60,000 in non-mature towns and $45,000 in mature towns
5-room flat: $45,000 in non-mature towns and $30,000 in mature towns

The starting prices after grant amounts are illustrative, assuming that the household incomes of eligible first-time buyers of flats in the mature towns are higher. The actual grant amount received will depend on the buyers’ income and eligibility. Read more on EHG in HDB InfoWEB.
+ Prices include the costs of floor finishes, internal doors and sanitary fittings.
^^ Singles who apply for a 2-room Flexi flat under the Single Singapore Citizen (SSC) Scheme will pay $15,000 more than couples. Eligible singles can also apply for the EHG of up to $40,000. The actual grant amounts will vary according to income.
Selling prices are rounded up to the nearest thousand dollars.


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On-Trend Wedding Themes For Your Intimate Wedding

If you are one of those couples who have been planning for their 2020 wedding, I cannot fathom how much stress you are feeling right now. What should have been the most exciting day of your lives has now been overwhelmed by the uncertainties of the global pandemic. While others have postponed their Big Day, some are willing to make the most out of the situation.

For instance, 240 couples tied the knot on the auspicious Aug 8 despite coronavirus restrictions. A spokesman for the Registry Of Marriages told The Straits Times:

“With the recently announced revised safe management measures, couples who want to solemnize their marriage need not delay their plans. They can still have intimate and meaningful wedding celebrations.”

Couples are allowed to have up to 48 guests in venues such as places of worship or hotels. Safe management measures such as wearing face masks and checking in via SafeEntry are to be followed for ceremonies held at external venues.

On the other hand, couples are allowed to have 8 guests for solemnization ceremonies held at home, at the Registries of Civil, at Muslim Marriages building, or at the National Museum of Singapore. These 8 guests may include non-immediate family members such as your videographer or photographer.

Make your intimate wedding celebration meaningful by considering one of these themes:

#1: CLASSICALLY ROMANTIC WEDDING

Influenced by the unwavering appeal of royal and celebrity weddings, sweet garden weddings that are utterly simple yet outright romantic. For this look, guests are typically greeted with gorgeous lush garlands and floral centerpieces. Worry not about the venue as you can either celebrate a classically romantic wedding indoors and outdoors.

For the indoors, decorate your home with floral centerpieces and indoor plants. You can have a subtle color scheme of blush, champagne, and cream. You may also have a church garden-themed wedding with the colors of lavender, silver, and white.

#2: GLAMOROUS WEDDING

For wedding ceremonies at hotels, you may sparkle the night away! This glistening wedding theme starts with a dapper groom in tuxedo and an elegantly glam bride in a long dress. You may exude glamour by adding decor to a ballroom such as glittery linens or huge centerpieces.

Nonetheless, you may experience this theme in your own home by adding gold foil or glitters to your customized gift boxes and invitations. Having glamorous virtual background for your guests can add a thematic surprise. You may also decorate the flat with touches of gold and silver.

#3: CREATIVE WEDDING

With the freedom to decorate your own home with a theme that hits your hearts, use your artistic abilities to channel unforgettable creative weddings. From Star Wars to the Greatest Showman, the creative theme of your intimate wedding has no limits. Simply sprinkle parts of your personalities to the wedding elements to achieve this unique look.

You can even start with your handmade invitations. Comic-book enthusiasts may release virtual “cartoonized” wedding invitations to their guests.

#4: BOHEMIAN CHIC WEDDING

If you are the type of person who is laid back, simple, and free-spirited then a bohemian styled wedding is perfect for you! Inspired by the popular music festivals all over the world, a bohemian chic wedding fuses the layered textures, quirky prints, and rustic elements all together in a uniquely beautiful way. Eye-catching bohemian elements such as ribbons, gold accents, embellishments, and printed blankets will captivate your wild hearts.

Take the comfort up a notch by opting for sandals instead of the traditional heels. Aside from this, the bride can wear blooming flower crowns instead of the veil. Search through Pinterest for inspirations on how to make your own bohemian wedding elements.

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At the end of the day, what matters is that you have each other. Be honest when it comes to what you can afford and what is feasible given the current situation. Communication is essential when it comes to planning a wedding – this year or the next.

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5 issues that come with pregnancy plus how to deal with them

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For mummies-to-be, congratulations! While the joy of being able to hold your child in your arms excites you, there are sorrows that come with pregnancy too. We’re referring to the issues that come with pregnancy like acne, pigmentation, eczema, stretch marks, and hair problems. Except maybe for stretch marks, most of them are temporary woes so don’t sweat over it!

Ladies who are planning their pregnancy journey may also find this useful.

#1: ACNE BREAKOUTS
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It’s like going through teenage years all over again with acne breakouts. According to dermatologist Dr Wang Yi Shi of W Skin and Laser Clinic, acne outbreaks are more common during early pregnancy. This is most likely because of hormonal changes that happen during pregnancy which trigger the oil glands on the face to become more active. The increase in sebum may cause clogged pores.

How to deal with it

If you’re facing such issues, try to go on days without makeup. This is because makeup traps the pores which in turn result in more acne breakouts and skin irritations. You may also need to switch up your skin cleaning routine with products like topical antibiotic gels and topical salicylic acid. However, if you’re unsure of how to proceed, just make an appointment with a skin clinic.

#2: PIGMENTATIONS
Pregnancy pigmentation

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Currently at your fourth or fifth month of pregnancy and spotting irregular pigmentation marks on your face? Don’t be too stressed about it. These pigmentation marks also known as melasma, chloasma, or pregnancy mask come about as a result of the changes in your hormones. It should clear up slowly over time after you’ve given birth. This also applies to the ‘linea nigra’, a brownish line along the central abdomen.

How to deal with it

While the pregnancy mask is likely to go away, you may help prevent it by avoiding too much sun exposure. Also, use a sunscreen of minimum SPF 30 if you know you will be coming into contact with the harmful sun rays.

#3: ECZEMA
Pregnancy eczema

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As your tummy gets bigger over the months, the skin around the lower abdomen expands. This can cause itchy skin or eczema that may disrupt your sleep if left unattended.

How to deal with it

You should probably change to a gentler skin cleanser and apply moisturizer to the affected areas regularly.

#4: STRETCH MARKS
Pregnancy stretch marks

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Stretch marks associated with pregnancy are almost unavoidable. But understanding it is a first step to minimizing the damage. Do you know how stretch marks appear? As a result of your abdomen increasing dramatically in size, the middle layer of the skin (dermis) is torn.

How to deal with it

Since there is almost no cure for stretch marks relating to pregnancy, you can at least lessen the effect by keeping the skin around the abdomen soft, supple, and more resistant. To do that, exfoliate the skin once or twice a week before applying your preferred daily moisturizer.

We’ve also heard of the benefits of Bio-Oil against scars, stretch marks, and uneven skin tone. Furthermore, it is suitable for all skin types so decide if you want to give it a go?

#5: HAIR PROBLEMS
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Again, all thanks to hormonal changes during pregnancy, you may notice hair loss or even thickening. The good news is that these changes are most likely not here to stay. But, a change in products used may be necessary.

How to deal with it

Depending on your hair conditions, you may need to purchase new hair products to tackle the problems. Also, according to Dr Wang, people with sensitive and itchy scalps or broken skin on their scalp should avoid colouring their hair. Even organic hair colour brands can contain strong and toxic chemicals which may lead to allergic reactions. Better to be safe than sorry!

For the husbands out there who want to thank their wives for this really tough journey they are embarking on, how about giving them a practical pregnancy gift set? We think Clarins’ Beautiful Pregnancy Set is a collection of must-haves for mummies-to-be.

Here’s what you get for 193 SGD:

Clarins’ Beautiful Pregnancy Set

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The Beautiful Pregnancy Set includes:

  • Body Partner Stretch Mark Expert (175ml) x 1
    A gentle stretch mark cream that addresses stretch marks caused by pregnancy and weight fluctuations. This fast-absorbing, plant-based formula blended with minimal ingredients chosen precisely for their highly effective properties helps target stretch marks and gently comforts the skin.
  • Tonic Body Treatment Oil (100ml) x 1
    Essential body care to tone and improve skin elasticity and firmness. Made from 100% pure plant extracts, this fine, lightweight oil is recommended to prevent the appearance of stretch marks. It is also recommended during a period of weight loss. Leaves skin satin-soft and supple.
  • Exfoliating Body Scrub (100ml) x 1
    The first essential step to prevent dull-looking skin by refining and smoothing the skin’s texture.
  • Energizing Leg Emulsion (125ml) x 1
    An ultra-refreshing leg emulsion that instantly soothes the feeling of tired, heavy legs. It can even be applied over stockings. It is non-sticky, does not stain, and consists of natural plant extracts and essential oils.
  • Hydra-Essentiel Light Cream (15ml) x 1
    A luxurious light cream that plumps dehydrated skin with intense moisture and keeps it there for all-day hydration.
  • Clarins Soother x 1
  • Pregnancy Book by Jacques & Olivier Courtin-Clarins x 1
    A face and body beauty guide by Clarins for women before and after childbirth.

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Should you merge finances with your partner after getting married?

Merging finances

After saying ‘I do’, there are now more things to consider past the courting phase. As you begin preparing for your special day, take time to think about what happens after that. As I’ve heard many married couples say, the real deal begins after exchanging your wedding vows.

One of the most touchy issues is that of finances. While there are couples out there who manage their finances separately and successfully, some of you out there are wondering if you should do a merge. If that is so, you will need some fast advice to get you going. 

#1: SET DATES
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To decide if you should do a merge, full disclosure is needed. This means hiding nothing and having an honest discussion. Laying everything out on the table helps you and your partner to see where both of you are at in terms of money management.

The most obvious thing to discuss is the shared expenses for the house. We’re talking about things like the mortgage, various monthly bills, and even weekly spending groceries. A 50-50 might do the trick if both of you guys are receiving the same paycheck. But that’s usually not the case. Thus, maybe a monthly contribution of a fixed percentage of your income might work?

There’s also the question of raising kids in the future. An extra person or two will cost and this is another major topic on its own. We know one sit-down session won’t work with so much to decide. Thus, set dates. Make sure you allocate enough time to go through the nitty-gritty. Rushing through the conversations will only hurt later.

#2: SHARE YOUR FINANCIAL SITUATIONS
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‘For better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, until death do us part.’ That’s one of the common marriage vows exchanged on the most important day. To do so, you will need to walk the talk and get down and dirty with your financial situations.

Apart from salaries and bonuses, there’s also the topic of debt and other large expenses unknown to your partner. Now’s the best time to share your financial plans and future goals as well. What are the steps you or your partner are taking to pay off the debt? Will this affect your early years of marriage? Can either of you make compromises?

Let’s not forget routines! Is an annual trip to Europe feasible? Or can you two only afford a staycation at the moment? Talk about habits like the frequency of dining out per week and any expensive hobbies you might have.

#3: COME UP WITH A STRATEGY
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This is the final stage should you decide to merge your finances with your partner. After the sharing sessions and much pondering, it’s time to come up with a long-term strategy.

How will the merge be like? Are we talking about shared bank accounts and credit cards? If that’s the case, you may consider having one shared bank account. This account can be a place for crediting an agreed percentage of your salary and also withdrawals for shared expenses for the family.

After reviewing your strategy and realizing you guys have enough money for investment? Go ahead and discuss if the both of you should open up an investment account. Also, decide upfront who will be the main person managing the funds for investment. It’s also important to do a yearly review of your strategy.

We’re honestly just scratching the surface with some of these questions. As each couple is unique, there may be other unique issues that need to be brought up. Also, you and your partner must be aware that bickering might arise while going through this entire process. If required, allow yourself some ‘time-out’. Nothing said in the heat of the moment is rational.

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