In Dr. Brad Klontz’ book called the “Mind Over Money: Overcoming the Money Disorders that Threaten Our Financial Health” he dishes about the different ways one can sabotage his or her finances. Dr. Klontz knows what he is talking about, as he is a financial psychologist, investment advisor, an associate professor at Kansas State University, and a co-author of four financial books by profession.
To start with this discussion, Money Disorders are defined as persistent patterns of self-limiting and self-destructive financial behaviors. The root of these said disorders are the beliefs about money that you developed during the course of your life. Particular events, which are distressing and dramatic in nature, were dubbed “financial flashpoints”.
Examples of financial flashpoints include childhood poverty or abrupt unemployment. These financial flashpoints affect your financial behaviors because they leave an emotional scar that you will carry on throughout your adulthood. Fortunately, you can overcome the money disorders and take charge of your monetary life! You just have to know its types first.
The Mind Over Money book outlines the 3 types of Money Disorders as:
Money-worshipping patterns can either display through hoarding or compulsive buying. Hoarding is keeping excessive amount of stuff or money to gain a sense of security, safety, and relief from anxiety. While, compulsive buying is overspending on unnecessary things in order to feel good. They use money as an escape from troubles or worries.
2. MONEY AVOIDANCE
Money avoidance patterns exist as financial denial or financial rejection. Financial denial is when you refuse to face your financial problems (e.g., ignoring the credit card bills) to “minimize” the situation. On the other hand, financial rejection is when you experience guilt whenever your cash increases. People with low self-esteem most likely feel this.
3. RELATIONAL MONEY PATTERNS
Relational money patterns include disorders that are influenced by your loved ones or other social interactions. It exists as financial infidelity and financial enabling. Financial infidelity is when you lie about your spending to your spouse or life partner. For instance, you can open a secret bank account or spend beyond your agreed-upon budget.
Financial enabling, commonly seen in the Asian setting, is when you give money to your less fortunate relatives or friends whether you can afford it or not. You give them money even though it is not in their long-term best interest or because you just cannot say “No!”
As you can see, Money Disorders exist in different forms, and often exist without your conscious knowledge. Awareness and identification is the first step to conquer these disorders! 🙂