Sad to Return to Work? Toxic Positivity Says You Need to Feel Blessed!

The longer our time off work is, the more common it is to feel upset about returning. As we return to work after the long Yuletide season, our routine will start to change. Humans experience the most comfort with what is known and a routine of being at home or being away from work becomes our normal. Feeling nervous or discontent about returning to work after a break of one week or more is not necessarily concerning! It is more likely human nature.

As you enter the halls of your office, a co-worker may tell you to “bring good vibes only” or “feel blessed that you have work”. It is upsetting to hear that “be positive” remark when you know that you are having a difficult day. You are in the presence of toxic positivity at work. Toxic positivity comes when you are actively minimizing or invalidating negative emotions.

A study showed that more than 75% of respondents in a survey by Science of People said they “sometimes, often, or very often ignore their emotions in favor of being happy.” An example of toxic positivity in the workplace is being told that you need to “look at the brighter side” or to “just stay positive” despite not getting the promotion that you worked hard for. Have you experienced these? Does your workplace value positivity to the extent that it turns toxic?

Toxic positivity at its worst can negatively impact engagement and productivity, diminish trust, and damage company culture.

#1: INCREASED BURNOUT

Toxic positive increases burnout, which is exacerbated by emotional labor. Emotional labor occurs when you are feeling obligated to express an emotion that you are not actually feeling.

#2: LOSS OF TRUST

Invalidating the emotions of the employees or minimizing their prowess can cause loss of trust and create an avoidant work culture.

#3: BLOCKED MINDFULNESS

When you cannot even name what is happening to you, you cannot start the process of analyzation. You will not be able to process your emotions. It not only affects your mental health, but also your overall well-being. Toxic positivity blocks mindfulness, because you cannot accept what is happening in the present.

#4: UNSAFE SPACE

If you do not feel comfortable telling each other your feelings when something is not functioning properly, you may not feel that the space is safe. Is it time to turn the culture upside down to create a new level of emotional openness?

#5: UNQUESTIONABLE TOXIC POSITIVITY

Organizations should ask themselves the following queries to identify if toxic positivity is present:
a. Are employees allowed to change or challenge the culture?

b. Are employees allowed to express concerns or reservations during meetings?

c. Is this team allowed to play the role of devil’s advocate?

d. Are your employees expected to say yes or to agree all the time?

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Optimism is healthy. However, you need to ensure you are not being positive at the expense of the truth. Leaders should encourage openness and honesty at work. Employees will follow soon. Practice emotion-sharing exercises at meetings to foster more understanding and ignite cohesion between co-workers!

Sources: 1 & 2

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Bring Good Luck to Your Home with 2023 Feng Shui Tips

The Rabbit symbolizes longevity, peace, and prosperity in the Chinese culture. Having said that, we can look forward to 2023 as the Year of Hope. The Year of the Rabbit begins on January 22, 2023 (Chinese New Year).

The Rabbit is described as gentle, quiet, elegant, alert, quick, skillful, kind, patient, very responsible, and faithful to those around them. There are five types of rabbits including the five elements – Gold (Metal), Wood, Water, Fire, and Earth. This year is the Water Rabbit. The Water Rabbit is known for being amicable, flexible, and gentle.

Increase your luck by wearing the luck colors of blue, green, and white. To welcome good fortune in your home this coming Chinese New Year, add touches of blue. You may also wear metallic colors such as gold, silver, and grey jewelry to increase your luck.

#1: FOR THE BEDROOM

It is vital to have your bed in a commanding position. You should be able to see the door, but it should not face you directly. Remove the clutter or obstructions in your bedroom. Moreover, you must be able to get rid of your aquariums or water bodies inside your bedroom. Water is meant to diffuse the fire, which can decrease your passion in the bedroom.

#2: FOR THE KITCHEN

The stove should be in a commanding position and the fridge should be tidy. A mixture of water and salt is recommended to cleanse off bad energy and attract good energy. Feng Shui advisors recommend using hues of green, blue, white, grey, yellow, and brown in your kitchen. You may also add red or orange or inspiration. No matter what happens, you must steer clear of keeping broken items.

#3: FOR THE BATHROOM

Bathrooms have the lowest source of energy. Hence, you must use light and warm hues like light blue, turquoise blue, green, peach, pink, white, creamy white, and yellow here. It is recommended to decorate your bathroom with oval mirrors and mellow lighting.

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Feng Shui advisors strongly advise against the use of suspended harsh lights. Above everything else, you must frequently deep clean your bathrooms.

Sources: 1 & 2

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The Real Cost of Infidelity

Infidelity is defined as the act of having a romantic, emotional, or sexual relationship with someone other than one’s wife, husband, or partner. Extramarital affairs are complex! Its relationship dynamics, emotional investments, logistics, and explosive fallout are far from simple. More importantly, it is expensive!

According to Dr. Ramani Durvasala, a Los Angeles-based clinical psychologist: “Some people get an additional cell phone; a whole additional cell phone plan or a burner [phone] or something like that; they may travel; they may get hotel rooms; they may purchase gifts for this new person.”

The costs of maintaining two relationships add up. In fact, a study showed that expenses associated with an extramarital affair are typical and can cost nearly US$450 (S$601) per month. New flames can intoxicate your brain and push you to spend more. People spend money on event tickets, meals out, bar tabs, air fares, and hotel rooms. Covering one’s tracks can be expensive too. Some people are willing to pay more to ensure secrecy.

People have hired assistants whose sole responsibility was to manage the logistics of the affair or lawyers to draft the NDAs. “They get somebody, and they pay them double to shut them up, and they make that person sign an NDA,” said Dr. Ramina.

Paying an extra S$50 to S$100 a week on dating when you do not have that money can burn you quickly. Not to mention, the effects of infidelity can open a door to larger costs such as marriage counselling and divorce proceedings. Did you know that a 60-minute marriage counselling session can cost you around S$100 or more?

Apart from these costs, you must keep in mind the following elements.

#1: CHILD MAINTENANCE

The Court can order payment of child maintenance in the form of a monthly allowance or a lump sum. In Singapore, children are entitled to child maintenance from their biological parents until the age of 21. However, this order may be extended for certain circumstances such as undergoing national service.

#2: MEDICAL FEES

If you have been infected with STD due to your spouse’s infidelity, you are entitled to sue. You might be able to receive financial compensation on the grounds of “marital tort” (i.e., misconduct) providing medical evidence such as a doctor’s testimony. Moreover, if you were infected with HIV due to your spouse’s affairs, your partner can be found guilty of an offense.

#3: LOSS OF TRUST

The most obvious price of infidelity is loss of trust. Trust is not won back easily. The damage created by unfaithfulness can leave a lasting emotional wound. The slightest word or thought can trigger a person’s distrust from others. Both parties suffer an inability to share their lives with others without fear of betrayal. Marriage counselling can help mediate the situation.

#4: ACT OF FORGIVENESS

Following an act of unfaithfulness, a couple can move forward when forgiveness is present. Forgiveness is complicated, especially when you are breaking a vow. Forgetfulness will likely never occur, which makes forgiveness much harder. Healing takes time and effort.

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Whether infidelity has taken place in the form of physical or emotional affair, the price is high.

Sources: 1,2,3,4, & 5

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Are you too positive? Understanding the hazards of having an overly optimistic outlook

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You might think that being positive all the time is a good thing, but did you know that it can have some negative consequences?

Believe it or not, there are some dangers to being overly optimistic.

What are the pitfalls of being overly positive?

When you’re overly positive, you tend to exaggerate the good and ignore the bad.

You become so confident in your ability to see the best in every situation that you take unnecessary risks. And all of this can lead to some pretty big problems.

You might find yourself in over your head. You might take on projects that are too risky or agree to unfavorable terms. You might also end up alienating people who don’t share your rosy outlook on life. People may also see your confidence as naivety or even arrogance.

How to tell if you are an overly optimistic person

Do you tend to take things at face value and refuse to believe that bad things could happen to you? If this sounds like you, then there’s a good chance that you are an overly optimistic person.

While there’s nothing wrong with having a positive outlook on life, being overly optimistic can have some serious drawbacks. For one, it can lead to impracticality and overconfidence. You may become so convinced that everything will work out in your favor that you refuse to take precautions or put in any effort.

Overly optimistic people can be harmful to themselves and others. When we refuse to acknowledge negative experiences, we are doing ourselves a disservice. It’s important to allow ourselves to feel sadness, anger, and other difficult emotions to move on. Pretending that everything is sunshine and roses can prevent us from dealing with our problems head-on.

Achieving a healthy balance of optimism and realism
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While it’s good to be optimistic, it’s also crucial to be realistic.

After all, you don’t want to set yourself up for disappointment by expecting too much from life. It’s this balance of optimism and realism that can help you achieve true happiness and well-being.

In fact, studies have shown that a combination of realistic and optimistic thinking can promote well-being. People who embrace the two tend to be more satisfied with their lives and have fewer episodes of depression. They’re also more likely to seek out help when they’re struggling.

On the other hand, overly optimistic people can sometimes fall victim to the optimism bias. This is a cognitive bias that skews our knowledge evaluation in positive and self-serving ways. We often give ourselves too much credit, while downplaying the risks and potential negative outcomes of our choices.

How to dial it back when you’re too positive

If you’re someone who tends to be a bit too positive, there are a few things you can do to dial it back.

First, try to be more mindful of the words you use. If you find yourself saying things like “always” or “never,” try to replace those words with more realistic ones.

Second, be more aware of the way you respond to other people’s problems. When someone comes to you with a problem, resist the urge to try and fix it or make it sound not as bad as it is.

Lastly, don’t be afraid to embrace your negative emotions. It’s okay to feel sad, angry, or frustrated sometimes. Allow yourself to feel those emotions instead of pushing them down with false positivity.

An overly optimistic attitude can do more harm than good. If you ignore clear warning signs or downplay potential risks, your overly optimistic attitude can lead to some pretty big problems. Additionally, if you’re always putting a positive spin on everything, people may start to take advantage of you or rely on you too much. So while it’s good to be optimistic and have a positive outlook on life, too much of a good thing can be bad. Try to find a balance between being too optimistic and being too negative as you navigate through this year.

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Take control of your business by understanding and improving your sales conversion rate

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You may have the best product or service in your industry, but if no one is buying it, you’re not going to make any money. The fact is, most businesses could do more to improve their sales conversion rate.

What is a sales conversion rate, you ask? In its simplest form, it’s the percentage of people who visit your website or come into your store and then buy something. In other words, it’s how well you’re turning browsers into buyers.

If you’re not happy with your current conversion rate, don’t worry—we’re going to show you how to improve it. We will start by explaining what influences a sale, then give you some tips on how to increase your conversion rate. Let’s get started!

Analyzing your sales funnel

Before you can start improving your sales conversion rate, you need to understand where it stands now. This means taking a look at your entire sales funnel and analyzing every step of the user journey.

This starts at the top of the funnel, where you’re capturing leads. Are you capturing all the leads you could be? Are you using effective lead capture forms and techniques? Are you segmenting your leads correctly so that you’re targeting the right people?

Once you have their contact information, are you then providing them with compelling content that entices them to convert? Is your content relevant to their needs? Is it helpful? Is it engaging?

Once they’ve been convinced to become customers, are you making it easy for them to purchase? Are your checkout processes smooth and simple? Are you providing them with all the details they need? Are you offering them incentives to buy?

Start by analyzing your sales funnel and making changes where necessary. The more effectively you can guide potential customers through your sales funnel, the more likely they are to convert.

Optimizing your leads & reviews
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When it comes to optimizing your sales conversion rate, there are a few things you can do to improve your chances of making a sale.

Narrowing down your leads is one way to improve your results. By targeting only those most likely to buy from you, you’re eliminating the need to convert those less likely to buy. This makes the process easier for both you and your customers.

Another way to improve your conversion rate is by adding an exit-intent popup. This will give customers one last chance to consider buying before they leave your site. And if they don’t buy, it’s still a great way to capture their information and follow up with them later.

Finally, building trust with your customers is key. Showcasing social proofs, such as customer reviews and testimonials, is a smart way to do this. This helps create a sense of authenticity and builds confidence in your brand.

Enhancing the customer experience

Another way to increase your sales conversion rate is by giving your visitors a personalized experience. You can do this by tracking their behavior on your website and offering them content that’s relevant to their interests.

Also, focus on providing top-class customer service. This means being responsive to customer inquiries and concerns, offering a hassle-free returns policy, and providing additional details to product descriptions.

Utilizing AI & automation to increase conversion
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If you’re not utilizing AI and automation to increase your conversion rate, you’re seriously missing out. Here’s why:

  • AI analytics unlock robust customer data. It provides insights into customer behavior that would otherwise be hidden. This data can be used to improve your marketing and sales strategies, and ultimately increase your conversion rate.
  • Automation enables businesses to focus on more essential things. By automating repetitive tasks, businesses can concentrate on providing exceptional customer experiences. And we all know those happy customers are more likely to convert.

So if you want to take control of your business and increase your sales, utilizing automation and AI is the way to go.

You could be leaving money on the table by not optimizing your sales conversion rate. Don’t be content with merely increasing traffic to your site—you need to make sure those visitors are turning into paying customers. If not, you’re just wasting your marketing spend.

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