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How to maximize your relationships with $300

Most of us know the immense power a strong social relationship can unleash. Social ties can have a colossal impact on our thinking, experiences and behaviors and they form a pivotal social support for our physical and mental health. Nonetheless, in the course of building a relationship, ensuring its sustainability is key where we do not overstrain our financial resources.

This article – the second in a five-part series that continues from “How to maximize your life with a $3,000 paycheck”- will thus be looking at the different ways to optimize a $300 monthly “bonding budget”.

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Offering inexpensive treats in office

Spending at least 8 hours every workday in the office is not an exactly enjoyable and eventful affair. Every initiative to keep your colleagues’ chins up – no matter how insignificant in your opinion – is in fact a great form of encouragement. And it does not cost much, probably 10% of the $300 “bonding budget” or $30? Offering to pay for drinks or buying your co-workers snacks or sandwiches could be your first crowning move. It kick-starts the culture of reciprocity and good things will naturally come your way.

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Play a sport

Studies have shown that exercise may play a therapeutic role in addressing psychological disorders such as depression and prevent chronic diseases such as cardiovascular diseases. But that is not all. Sports can also yield vast social benefits and help to strengthen interpersonal relationships through the myriad of fun-filled interactions. Allocating $100 to the booking of courts, admission tickets to sport facilities, participation in running events and energy drinks and bars should be more than sufficient. Taking part in the POSB PAssion Run for Kids 2015 could be your first step to embarking on a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle while contributing to the fund-raising efforts for the less fortunate children.

A free ActiveSG membership is an icing on the cake. All Singaporeans and Permanent Residents who sign up for it are credited with ActiveSG$100 to be used for sports programmes and entrance fees for the swimming pools and gyms at various Sports Centres island-wide.

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Invest in get-together meals and games

Weekends are perhaps the perfect time for friends and families to relax and unwind by indulging in a food and drink galore while playing the popular board games. Classic board games like Monopoly, Scrabble and UNO are still great fun. But the number of new games has exploded in recent years as a community of independent designers and publishers has been steadily producing innovative, intriguing and alluring games offering experiences emulating the most sophisticated gaming hardware. So put the remaining $170 to good use by purchasing board games which possess enduring benefits and inviting friends over for a potluck.

In reality, there are many more ways to create special and lasting memories with the people you love and care about. What is more important is often not the means to do it, but the willingness to do it.

Should You Say, “Yes” To A Prenuptial Agreement?

BACKGROUND

In Singapore, more and more couples are interested to enquire about what Prenuptial Agreement entails.

Prenuptial Agreement (Prenup) is a contract between a couple that is about to get married. It is used to set the terms of assets, the control over properties acquired before marriage, the potential wealth division if the relationship later ends, and more. Sounds like a major romance buzzkill, doesn’t it?

Despite its reputation, prenups include significant benefits namely:

a. Protection from one’s debts incurred by the other party,

b. Offer supplementary certainty in financial arrangements, and

c. Protection of family inheritance or businesses in an event of divorce.

IMPORTANT CONSIDERATIONS

Before you sign a prenup, you must consider these 3 things:

1. IT MAY BE DIFFICULT TO DISCUSS

Even if we live in the most expensive city in the world where finances shall be carefully planned, do not assume that your future spouse is comfortable with pushing through a prenup. A prenup may suggest lack of trust in one party as you are planning for unforeseen divorce. Aside from this, talking about monetary and property division can make the marriage sound more like a business matter. Truly, this is a sensitive subject matter that should be handled with care, love, and honesty.

2. IT MAY NOT BE APPLICABLE FOR YOU

Just because your favorite celebrity did it does not mean that you should too! Prenup is not a necessity for everyone. But, I cannot deny that a prenup is especially helpful for couples that either earns about S$20,000 a month or already have children from previous marriages. Couples with previous marriages need to ensure that their children are protected and supported no matter what.

3. PRENUPS ARE IDEALLY BASED ON FAIRNESS

The idea of this written agreement is to highlight fairness and full disclosure of the couple’s assets. Terms have to be fair and reasonable to ensure that there will be no bias (e.g., elitism) and no coercion (e.g., use of threats).

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More Women Breadwinners: When She Makes More

Evolution suggests that men are designed to hunt while women gather. Gender stereotypes also encourage females to stay at home and to take care of the off springs. But…times have changed.

More Women Work

Based on a study by Prudential Company in 2012, approximately 53% of the sample were women breadwinners while only 22% were married or living with a partner who made more than them. Furthermore, other research showed that about 70% of mothers with children aged 17 and under are in the workforce. And, those numbers are just in the United States. Global rise in dual-career bearer household have increased annually.

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This fact that women are working more nowadays is something both men and women are accepting. The younger generations were raised to empower equality in the household. Moreover, the quality of life is getting harder as economies fail. And so, there is a great need for both men and women to work regardless of gender stereotypes.

Impact on Marriage When She Makes More

On of the largest impact of this contemporary shift is that it may affect the dynamics of the marriage. Psychology argues that men’s view of the self is formed by his work and his drive to achieve. If that is the case then if the wife makes more, it will make him feel far more inferior and insecure.

To avoid that, Farnoosh Torabi, the author of “When She Makes More”, suggests that most couples assume that if one makes more then that person has more responsibilities in the house, which she firmly stands against. According to Torabi, a couple must constantly make a conscious effort to ask the partner about financial decisions and share it openly with each other. Furthermore she gave these two tips: give everyone’s money a meaning, and treat each other once in a while.

Ultimate Financial Goal

The most important financial goal for women is to have enough money to raise their family, and to maintain the same lifestyle in their retirement. This is why young women need to take steps toward understanding investing. When women avoid investing young, they are losing out on the one thing that knowledge cannot buy– time.

Who makes more than whom should not be a huge matter as the couple’s combined earnings will only benefit not only the both of them but also their children. Couples shall work together and communicated openly on financial decisions in order to share the emotional responsibilities and keep the balance in order.

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