How To Survive Awkward Holiday Gatherings

This is the season when party invitations pour in. From family gatherings to company celebrations, the holiday cheer assails you from every angle. Not everyone holds the cheerful tune in the same manner.

If you have social anxiety or have a tendency to be awkward during parties, then you are not alone. Many people experience “holiday anxiety”. Here are some ways to deal with it…

#1: EMBRACE THE SMALL TALK

Whether you like it or not, small talk is the core of social gatherings. If you label yourself as a person who is not good at conversation, you might be so stressed about the things you say that you end up saying nothing at all. Navigate through casual conversations by preparing for it.

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Share at least two interests or experiences. Or better yet, dwell on the new things that you can learn from the person that you are talking to. Focus on the other person. Ask simple questions such as “What keeps you busy?” or “How do you see your field changing a few years time?” You may also ask a couple about the story of how they met.

#2: ACCEPT THE PARTY DYNAMICS

Be honest with yourself! You probably get along better with your friends than your family or co-workers. That is completely understandable. You have chosen your friends based on your compatibilities. Being with them this holiday season can be a breeze!

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While, family members are fixed whether you are like-minded or not. Accepting this fact can help you quit expecting to get along with everyone. Instead, focus on loving your family in spite of your differences.

#3: BE OPEN TO STRANGERS

Parties are the breeding grounds of strangers. I know that you are way beyond the “stranger danger” stage, but you might be worried about meeting new people. The anticipation of interacting with strangers can stimulate personal questions such as will you be boring or weird during the conversation. Stop ruminating about these thoughts!

Remember that a conversation is a two-way street. It is not your duty to carry the talk the entire night! If the person seems uninterested or less chatty, he or she may be tired or preoccupied. Who knows? This person may be socially awkward too.

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Above all else, you must do your best to stay present in the moment. Post your holiday photos a day or two later. You do not need to compete online or keep up with the people who brag about how amazing their holiday experiences are!

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Efficient Ways To Socialize On A Budget

You do not have to miss every opportunity to socialize because of your tight budget! Here are some tricks that you may follow to keep both your finances and friends happy:

#1: EMPLOY THE HONESTY SYSTEM

In Philosophy, the “honesty system” refers to endeavours ran based on trust and honor. Rules are typically applied to stay honest. Establish a similar system by sorting out your financial circumstance with the people who matter to you. Opt for the economically sound choices when hanging out with your friends or relatives. For instance, you may suggest splitting the bill with your workmates when celebrating the department’s increased sales.

Money may be a tough subject to hit, but genuine friends will understand. Said friends will avoid putting a strain on your finances!

#2: PLAN AHEAD OF TIME

Birthdays, weddings, and New Year festivities are some of the fixed events that happen in a year. With their nature, you have an ample amount of time to prepare for each one. Filling out a planner is a good strategy to accomplish. Having a planner helps you to remember special dates and to see the bigger picture.

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Plan a category of your budget according to the events that you foresee. Set aside at least a month to save up for future events. It may be easier said than done. However, you may start small. Prioritize events that are important to you. You do not have to give everyone a birthday present!

#3: SPOT HAPPY HOUR DEALS

As a young professional, sharing a few drinks at the nearby pub is one of the most popular ways to meet new people. Socializing in the bar, club, or pub helps some people to vent out their heated stress from work. However, I cannot deny the hefty prices that come with alcoholic drinks.

Have a good time while cutting your bill significantly by researching the “happy hour deals” nearby. Most bars in Singapore have deals between 4 PM to midnight. Not to mention, there are other promotional events such as “ladies’ night” where women pay less than the male patrons. For the cheapest happy hour drinks, you may check out this list!

#4: SCORE WITH FREE EVENTS

Last but not the least, you may take advantage of the country’s free events. Whether you are eyeing for live music or art workshops, these events may help you uncover a new talent or skill. Furthermore, it will not poke a hole on your wallet!

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Do not be scared to get out of your comfort zone by trying something new with your friends. To find free events, you may check out your community’s website or eventbrite.sg.

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