What you should do if you have a seemingly lazy colleague

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Do you have that one colleague you can’t stand because they just don’t seem to be doing work? Maybe it’s arriving late at work, taking an unreasonably long lunch, or clocking off way too early before 6pm?

If their sluggish actions aren’t directly affecting you, it’s good to let go. However, if it’s slowly eating into your workload, maybe it’s time to raise it to the management. But before you make your way to the higher-ups, try to see if you can keep it low-key. Here’s what you should do if you have a seemingly lazy colleague.

Schedule for an honest talk

Humans are quick to judge. To save you from embarrassment, it’s good to schedule an honest talk with your coworker.

Putting emotions aside, enter the conversation in a neutral stance. Let the other party know that their work habits have been affecting you trying to complete your tasks. Then, ask if there are any reasons behind their actions. Chances are, you might find out a thing or two about their circumstance.

Guide, don’t do it on their behalf
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Maybe you’ve spoken to your colleague and realised that they are just pure lazy. Should that be the case, don’t do their work on their behalf.

Such workers can be very skilled in persuading people to take on their responsibilities, so the last thing you want to do is fall into their trap. For example, if your coworker doesn’t seem to know how to do basic editing via Photoshop, suggest courses for upskilling. Or, if you have extra time on your hands, record a video and provide step by step instructions to aid them.

Distract yourself from distraction

Lazy colleagues can become a huge distraction if you allow them to. That is, you authorise their behaviours to take your focus away on the urgent tasks at hand.

Instead of spending the entire day’s energy complaining or being frustrated at how they chitter chatter or aimlessly scroll through their social media accounts without doing much, distract yourself from that distraction. You can choose to work somewhere else where they are not in sight or put on your noise-cancelling earbuds to tune them out.

Be explicit on what you want to be done
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As we come to the end of this article, know that there are people out there who constantly require pushy nudges. You want to be clear on what needs to be done with such personalities.

Tell them exactly when you need the task to be completed and make sure your team is in the loop on the matter. When there are more eyeballs on the situation, this will at least point that particular colleague to get up and get moving to meet the deadline. It’s also a great chance to see if your coworker is genuinely lazy or simply lacks the initiative to get started with work tasks.

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Self-doubt: How Impostor Syndrome Can Hold You Back At Work

You are suited up and ready to impress!

On your way to a job interview for a company that you care about, you brought a C.V. that highlights how perfectly you fit in the position you applied for. You are more than qualified for the position, and the team would be lucky to have you. The hiring manager said so himself!

However, you start questioning whether you are capable of the job as you meet the company’s supervisor. Self-doubt can cripple you and hinder your success.

WHAT IS IMPOSTOR SYNDROME?

Impostor Syndrome is the overwhelming feeling that you do not deserve success. You become convinced that you are not talented, attractive, intelligent, or capable as you may seem. You suspect that your achievements are due to luck, good timing, and other external factors.

Particularly in male-dominated environments, impostor syndrome has been thought to affect women more than men. However, recent study showed that it affects both genders equally.

A person with impostor syndrome (impostor) has a sense of being a fraud, a difficulty internalizing his or her success, and a fear of being discovered. Usually, the stressor triggering impostor syndrome involves getting a new opportunity such as a new job or an advanced degree.

“The person who achieved this level of success begins to have negative thoughts that the success was not really earned. These negative thoughts, which are often referred to as ‘cognitive distortions,’ are based on fear and anxiety and not based in objective facts.” – Ms. Cara Maksimow, LCSW

HOW CAN IT AFFECT WORK?

An impostor may procrastinate or put off assignments due to the fear of being unable to complete the necessary ambitious standards. On the other hand, the imposter may over-prepare by spending too much time on the task. If his or her behavior creates a successful outcome, it will be written off as luck or fluke in the system.

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Success can create a cycle of self-doubt for imposters. Even when they achieve important milestones, they are unable to recognize their own achievements. Instead of celebrating these, the impostors are worried that others will discover the “truth” about their abilities. This is an irrational thought.

HOW CAN YOU MANAGE IT?

There are many ways to manage the impostor syndrome. Here are just some of them:

a. Create a list of your strengths and prior accomplishments at work. Refer to this list when you are questioning yourself.

b. Talk to mentors who are more experienced in the field, when you feel like you do not belong in the situation.

c. Set realistic goals. Often, a fear of failure and a need to be the best can lead to overachievement.

d. Acknowledge what you are feeling. Do your best to keep a journal. Whenever you experience feelings of self-doubt or inadequacy, write your thoughts down. Be specific about why you are feeling this way.

e. Handling with Impostor Syndrome takes long-term effort. You need to employ strategies to deal with it at particularly stressful situations. When the negative self-talk takes over your mind, try to confront it by distancing yourself from the “emotional power” of the voice.

Sources: 1, 2, & 3

 

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6 Heart-warming Lessons From Hometown Cha-Cha-Cha

Hometown Cha-Cha-Cha is a Korean drama available on tvN and Netflix. It is a hilarious, heart-warming, and healing love story that surrounds a dentist from the city and a man who can do everything. The show has displayed a myriad of life lessons.

From its leads to the stories of the people in the community, here are 6 remarkable lessons you can learn from Mr. Hong Du-Sik (Kim Seon-Ho) and Dr. Yoon Hye-Jin (Shin Min-Ah).

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“Do you know what it means to be a good parent? It is staying healthy for a long time. They should not endure pain to save money for their children. They should take care of themselves.” – Dr. Yoon Hye-Jin

Health is wealth. Dr. Yoon’s parents sacrificed themselves to provide the best life for their daughter. We only see the products of the sacrifices without thinking of its effects. How will the sacrifices you make affect the people whom you will leave behind?

“Life isn’t so fair for all of us. Some spend their whole lives on unpaved roads, while some run at full speed only to reach the edge of a cliff.” — Mr. Hong

We all have different struggles and have been brought from diverse circumstances. Each of us has a distinct timeline in life. Mr. Hong reminds us that just because we have not experienced what others are going through, does not mean that their feelings are not valid. Let us keep our minds and hearts open to understand others.

“If you cannot pick up spilled milk, you should at least apologize to them for spilling the milk, rather than avoiding them.” — Mr. Hong

Escapism is often an easier route than taking responsibility for our actions. Some people tend to escape from the mistakes they have made towards others. Remember that there is nothing wrong with admitting a mistake and saying sorry.

“You’re bound to meet unexpected situations in life. Even if you use an umbrella, you will end up getting drenched. Just put your hands up and welcome the rain.” — Mr. Hong

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Much like the pandemic, unexpected situations happen all the time. Despite how ready you are, you still need to adjust to the current situation. Appreciate the circumstances coming your way to see the beauty in life.

“La-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la,
Romantic Sunday,
La-la-la-la-la-la-la-la-la,
It’s a beautiful and shining day.” — OST

The OST is such an earworm! It is impossible not to sing the OST as you watch the entire series. This song highlights the beauty of life and the importance of love.

“Money and success aren’t the only valuable things in life. Happiness, self-contentment, world peace, love… Anyway, life is not a mathematical situation. It does not have a clear answer. There is no right answer either. You’re just given a problem and it’s up to you how you solve it.” — Mr. Hong

Indeed! There life’s problems do not have clear solutions. It is up to us to solve these problems as they come along. There is no right way to lead your life. It is in your hands to take responsibility for the decisions you make.

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Secondary School Students To Receive Digital Learning Device By 2021: Brand New iPads & Apple Pencils For Some

Last year, the Parliament brought the 2028 Digital Learning Device plan to 2021. All secondary school students will be equipped with a digital learning device by the end of 2021. This initiative aims to improve the digital literacy of today’s children.

Not only will the devices enhance their learning experience, but also support the Ministry’s plan to implement the Blended Learning. The Ministry plans to implement Blended Learning in all secondary schools, junior colleges, and the Millennia Institute in Term 3 of 2021. The Blended Learning incorporates the regularly scheduled home-based learning (HBL) days.

The digital learning devices will support the virtual lesson plans and allow the teachers to personalize the students’ learning experience.

EDUSAVE AND DIGITAL LEARNING DEVICES

According to the Ministry of Education (MOE), payment for these devices will be covered through Edusave. The Government added a S$200 top-up in April 2020. This will total to about S$75 million.

Those who need financial assistance will receive help. Students who come from lower-income households will get further subsidies to ensure that their out-of-pocket cost is S$0.

EDUCATION AS A GREAT EQUALIZER

One of the biggest issues to solve on a global level are class divisions. Singapore is not immune to this. Thus, MOE promised that students from lower-income households will not be disadvantaged.

Moreover, the MOE is making investments by setting up the National Institute of Early Childhood Development. We all know how important early childhood is to a person’s life.

DIGITAL LEARNING DEVICE UPDATES
(Disclaimer: Some secondary school students may be given different learning devices apart from Apple iPads.)

MARCH 2021

Riverside Secondary School previously posted that their Secondary 2 students received their personal learning devices. The iPad came with an Apple Pencil and a Logitech keyboard case to allow students to fully utilize their tablet for their learning.

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SEPTEMBER 2021

Yuhua Secondary School students received their brand-new personal devices and could not hide their excitement behind their masks. Since the sole purpose of the tablets is education, a device management software was installed. Students will not be able to play games such as PUBG during their lectures.

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Common toddler mealtime problems and tips to overcome them

a fussy Asian child at mealtime

Mummies, daddies, and grandparents, we salute you. Parenting and grandparenting are never easy tasks, and each passing minute can be a struggle if you can’t seem to find a suitable method.

Folks currently looking after their child or grandchild, you will quickly agree that there are toddler mealtime problems that require solutions. Allow us to identify some of these common issues and share with you tips to overcome them!

Food is always all over the floor

Toddlers are usually defined as children aged one to three. For young kids like that, it’s easy to be faced with a mess if they’re left alone during mealtime.

Do not be too quick to raise your voice because your little one’s coordination isn’t fully developed just yet. Be glad that they are attempting to feed themselves, albeit a little messy. A quick tip would be to place a plastic sheet right below their high chair or at the dining area so you won’t have to worry about the floor being greasy during clean-up time.

Sitting still is out of the question
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Is your toddler too fidgety and always wandering around during mealtimes? Children who are aged two and above may find sitting still a challenge.

But now’s the age to introduce mealtime routines to make your life a little easier going forward. The last thing you want to do is shout and scream and justify it as a style of discipline. Also, turning on YouTube videos to keep your child occupied should be a last resort. To make eating time an enjoyable activity, chat with your child and watch them respond to you.

Taking their own sweet time

Child-rearing is definitely not a walk in the park. Likening the process to a warzone is as accurate as it can be. We know that you don’t have all the time in the world to watch your toddlers eat for an hour. Hence, set time limits.

For a good gauge, mealtimes for these littles ones should not exceed 20 minutes. Some children like to “store” food in their mouths without slowing. A gentle nudge every five minutes is a proper habit to instil for such kids. Remind them in advance before their 20 minutes is up, so they are aware that it’s time to quicken the pace and finish their serving.

Fussy over certain foods
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As we come to a close, be aware that even adults are fussy over certain foods like vegetables. However, keeping it entirely out of their diet is also not advisable. There are two ways to approach this problem.

First up, you can slowly introduce these foods in small portions. Shower your compliments generously when they manage to eat them. If it doesn’t work on your child, you may try to blend these greens and mix them up with their favourite foods. Be careful not to overdo it since certain food smells in large quantities can be overpowering for a young one.

Mealtimes don’t have to be a struggle if you can heed the above advice. Try it and improvise along the way to see if it works for you?

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