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How Married Couples Can Deal With Huge Salary Gaps

Whether you want to admit it or not, income plays an integral part in the society’s perception of your worth and success. Fusing the the topic of finances to relationships makes things more complicated.

To some degree, your paycheck determines your role in a romantic relationship. An imbalance is created when your spouse earns more than you or the other way around. It is believed that the person who has a higher salary has increased options and financial freedom. Nonetheless, you must address the huge salary gap between you and your partner.

Here are just some tips to help you deal with your current situation:

COMMUNICATION IS THE KEY

Practicing open communication is one of the best ways to resolve issues in marriage (or any romantic relationship). If you are frustrated with your spouse because he or she is not making an effort to find a new job then, talk about it. If you feel guilty for spending more money than your spouse then, talk about it.

Start your financial discussion in a loving manner without accusing the other of anything. You are a family. You should not treat this like a heated battle or a boiling competition. The end goal is to help each other out.

ESTABLISH A BUDGET

Imagine taking a long ride in an unfamiliar place. Your journey can take you into different directions. To create a distinct path, you must follow a map. The same idea applies to your finances. To create a distinct path to your financial goal, you must set a budget.

Establishing a budget lets you allocate a specific amount to each member of the family. Also, you will be able to determine each other’s spending habits. Beginners in budgeting are recommended to use the envelope system.

RESPECT ONE’S ABILITY TO EARN

Before I went to bed, I came across a online discussion at Reddit. The thread surrounded the issue of having any significant achievement gaps between couples. Interestingly, these couples live in harmony.Reddit user pecrh001‘s story caught my attention.

“I have 2 degrees and work as a lawyer. My husband never finished uni but has a job that he loves. He’s a great father and husband. It doesn’t really matter that I earn more than him because it’s all just family money. We’re both working hard and supporting each other and our kids.”

Finding someone who respects you as a person and your ability to earn is more important than the degree that you are holding. Being successful on paper does not translate to your character. Each other’s money is valuable. Forget keeping score!

GIVE AND TAKE

Another important practice that the Reddit thread highlighted is the balance between the two individuals. You must have the chance to give and take. Reddit user The_Superbus illustrated this by posting:

“I worked two jobs while she was in medical school and one job while she was in residency. Now I work no jobs while she is an attending. She likes the fact that I do most of the work around the house so she doesn’t have to. I like the fact that I haven’t had to go to work for the last few years. It also lets us raise our own kid without relying on daycare for 9 hours a day, which is nice.”

EMPLOY A REWARD SYSTEM

After months and months of hard work, you may feel exhausted and overwhelmed. Break the cycle by motivating with reasonable rewards. For instance, you may go to a fancy dinner when your money exceed your budget or when you achieve a financial goal.

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Rewarding each other is a way to remind yourselves that the money you make belongs to the both of you.

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4 Times Your Parents Were Right About Money

Like most parents, mine were fond of imparting nuggets of wisdom to us. Whether we like it or not, we have to listen to the Hallmark-worthy quotes for every occasion. Be honest! How many times did you roll your eyes on your mother or father as they scold you in front of your friends?

Well, it turns out that some of their financial lessons are beneficial. You can either learn from their successful stories or their wrongful moves. With that said, here are “4 Times Your Parents Were Right About Money”:

DO NOT PUT ALL YOUR EGGS IN ONE BASKET

This statement does not refer to organizing your grocery items. Instead, it refers to the piece of advice that argue against putting your resources in one object or individual. My parents were right when they told me to embrace all the job opportunities while I am still young.

The technical term for this act is diversification. Not diversifying has its drawbacks. Diversification, according to Nobel Prize winner in economics Harry Markowitz, lowers the risk of loss and increases the chances for success when investing. You may apply diversification in other aspects of your life.

For instance, avoid pouring yourself to the workplace as you may neglect your physical health and emotional sanity. In friendships, you must devote your time to several people to create a personal support system or a business network.

MONEY DOES NOT GROW ON TREES

“Money does not grow on trees!”, exclaimed my father. I cannot recall how many times these happened to me as a child (who just wants to collect Barbie dolls). Oh! Hearing these words translated to our mother tongue had a stronger impact. I am sure that some of you had the same experience. As you read these words, your parents’ voices may echo in your head. You are not alone.

The idea of quick and easy cash may appeal to most of us during our childhood, but the real world does not work like that. Earning money takes determination, time, and effort. This is why you must not waste your money on things that you do not need. Teach the value of money to new generations as well.

Furthermore, it is practical to establish your own emergency fund should an unexpected event arise. Consider this “Clever Ways To Build A Sufficient Emergency Fund“ article as a guide.

SPEND WITHIN OR LESS THAN YOUR MEANS

Spending within or less than the bounds of what you can afford can contribute to a stress-free life. I know this lesson sounds utterly obvious. However, some people do not understand the principles of cash flow. A number of Singaporeans are not afraid to whip out their credit cards to buy items that they cannot afford at the moment.

My cousin’s parents understand the prowess of a credit card. So, they did not allow their child to get one. You see, they believed that it is not a good idea to purchase something when you do not have enough cash in the bank to afford it. My cousin has to keep saving money until he could afford the thing that he desires.

You may argue that you cannot shop online without a credit card, but you can use a MasterCard or a Visa debit card. Spending wisely is a good practice to impart to your future children.

PATIENCE IS A VIRTUE

My mother is patience personified! Her actions taught that overcoming instant gratification is important to financial success. Impatience costs people cold hard cash.

If you are willing to wait instead of purchasing immediately, you are able to compare prices within other shops and to find cheaper options. Practicing patience gives you the opportunity to wait for the greatest sales, huge markdowns, and bargain deals that will help you save a lot.

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There are many ways to improve this virtue. You may employ breathing techniques or visualize how long you will wait while in a queue.

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Is Childcare Only For Rich Singaporeans?

As an early childhood teacher from an internationally acclaimed school, I am exposed to the childcare industry. My mere exposure made me wonder why childcare is so expensive! For starters, the issue made the headlines last year due to the huge price gap between the different childcare services across Singapore.

The average price was S$1,004 and the median was S$856. This means that there are centers that charge more than S$2,000. It is ridiculous how this amount is near to the country’s minimum wage. With these overwhelming prices, here are some factors that you must consider before paying for childcare services:

1. VISIT YOUR OPTIONS

Ask credible resources about the available childcare services in your area. For instance, an affordable option is NTUC First Campus (NFC). NFC is dedicated to provide quality and affordable education services for working parents. The institution’s fees range from about S$1,300 to S$1,900.

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On the other hand, premium childcare centers endorse specific methodologies such as Montessori. Research on these methods to determine whether they are in lined with your beliefs. Another option is hiring a live-in nanny. A nanny can help you out with other tasks such as cleaning the room and cooking dinner. Save money by hiring a caregiver nearby.

2. COMPARE THE COSTS

As with everything else, you should shop around. Compare the costs of hiring a nanny and enrolling in a daycare center. Have a sense of the monthly fees and requirements. Also, remember to include any government fees and childcare benefits from your company.

3. UNDERSTAND YOUR ECONOMIC SITUATION

Look at your budget and focus on two things. Firstly, figure out your current spending habits. Lastly, eliminate the unnecessary expenses. Are you ready?

Start by creating a list of the things that you spend on. A free software like Mint can help you with the compilation of information. Afterwards, you must go through your non-essential spending. Eliminate or minimize your coffee runs, restaurant visits, shopping sprees, and petrol costs.

Alter your budget according to your predicted childcare spending according to your careful examination.

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Financial Sacrifices Are Crucial To Send Your Child To A University

HSBC, one of the world’s largest financial institution, conducts its yearly survey series entitled “The Value of Education”. This yearly report examines the parent’ expectations and aspirations for their children’s education.

In 2015, it highlighted that a whopping 90% of Singaporean parents saw undergraduate studies as an essential tool for their children’s success. The interesting part was that majority of these parents (about 83%) were willing to pay more to send their children overseas. The only downside was that some of these parents do not have sufficient money saved. Can you see how much importance was given to university education despite the lack of financial foresight?

Let us move towards the recent 2016 report. Parents in Singapore spend an average of S$21,000 annually on their beloved’s university education. This significant amount is more than twice the global average. Furthermore, majority of these parents (about 52%) were willing to get trapped into debt just to fund their children’s studies. Singaporeans seem to perceive higher education, including overseas studies, as a clincher for future success. Simply ask the billion-dollar tuition or tutorial industry!

The potential issues arise when parents ignore their other financial commitments such as building a savings account for their golden years. Avoid these issues by employing practical steps when planning for your children’s education.

Consider these four steps:

1. ESTABLISH YOUR SAVINGS IN ADVANCE

If you are going to have stellar aspirations for your children, it is only fair that you plan ahead. Open a savings fund for your his or her education during the early development years. Doing so will enable you to have a decent amount of money kept by the time that your child goes to university (i.e., 19 to 21 years old).

2. ENCOURAGE FINANCIAL INDEPENDENCE

Teaching your child the value of money and work opens doors to a brighter financial future. Do not forget about the basics of personal finance including budgeting and investing. Being able to manage their finance is essential to adulthood.

3. ASK FOR PROFESSIONAL GUIDANCE

Seeking professional advice allows you to pinpoint your financial opportunities and potential pitfalls along the way. Need I say more?

4. TAP INTO YOUR CPF ACCOUNT AS A LAST RESORT

Singaporean parents may use their Central Provident Fund Ordinary Account (CPF-OA) savings to cover their children’s diploma or degree courses at approved institutions. If your CPF-OA is insufficient, you can apply for the school’s financial assistance schemes or the Tuition Fee and Study Loan schemes offered by the government.

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Make this option your last resort as you need your savings for retirement, healthcare, and other emergencies.

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Is It Alright For Parents To Financially Support One Child?

Parents who support their children are less apparent in the Western setting where independence is practiced. In Singapore, it is more acceptable as we live within a predominately Asian culture.

Financial favoritism is an issue that strikes a chord in my heart as I have witnessed it happen numerous times in my family. Some of my distant relatives have relied immensely on their parents’ support throughout their lifetime. In most of these cases, there was one sibling (i.e., “the financial favorite”) who needed the money more than the others. It is pretty much an unspoken rule to lend a hand to a son or daughter in need.

Basing on ownership, your parents’ wealth is theirs to spend. They are free to give it away during appropriate circumstances. However, relationships can be significantly affected if the immediate family discovers that the parents were favoring one child financially. Parents must uncover the following questions to ensure that they are thinking all the possible issues thru.

WHEN SHOULD YOU LET THE SECRET OUT?

There are two types of financial support: minor and major. Minor support is generally an isolated case, which is temporary and sensitive. The sensitive nature of the situation is the main reason why you should keep the issue to yourselves. Now, let us focus on the latter. Major support can impact the entire family’s future. Disclosing the issue is necessary if you anticipate that the other siblings will have to chip in once you are no longer able to support the financial favorite.

WHY ARE YOU DOING THIS?

I can only imagine how much pain you are in once you see your child suffering from a financial crisis. Wanting to fix things for him or her is natural. It may be tempting to favor one over the other at times.

Explaining the situation to your family is an opportunity to clear the air. But, explaining your side may not guarantee that your other children would agree to your rationale. You must prepare for their diverse reactions after learning about the financial support for a specific sibling. If they consider the financial favorite as an irresponsible sibling, they may not be willing to help.

HOW WILL YOU ENSURE THAT MATTERS WILL BE FAIR?

Say the parents of Wendy thought that she needs extra help in the future because she is currently unmarried with a low-earning profession. They left more money in her inheritance than with the other siblings. After several years, Wendy became a successful lawyer and out-earned the rest.

Circumstances change. No one knows exactly what the future holds. So, consider being equitable when you plan your Last Will.

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Whatever your reason may be, strategically contemplate on how your actions will affect your relationship with your children as well as the relationship between them. Supporting one child financially is acceptable – to a certain extent.

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